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I’ve noticed this, because of that incident he no longer sees me as the person that’s safe while he is having a difficult time with his ptsd. We’ve had discussions on whether we should call it quits because I brought it up, but he always says he doesn’t want to end things and not have me in his...

I can see why you’d get the impression that he is being manipulative but I know he is genuinely hurt because I used some of the most personal things he’s ever said to me as ammo because he made it seem as if he was back with his ex... it’s a long story. We broke up, he sent me photos of him with...

It seems as if whenever he’s in a bad headspace (having an episode) is when he brings up that past argument, then follows with “I don’t know how to love right. I don’t do this on purpose, so dont make me feel guilty for being hurt but you made me hate myself more than I already do.” We’ve...

It’s been about 4 months since I’ve been on the forum. T and I were doing great, we were back to almost normal (I say almost because the pandemic put alittle strain on us, but that was out of our control). Monday we had a conversation about taking our relationship to the next level and working...

So today... technically yesterday was my birthday. I spent time with my children, sister, mom, had a great day actually. Even received a very strange email from my children’s father wishing me a happy birthday, we don’t even have the easiest coparenting relationship. .. That is what got me tho...

I know there are times when he feels tremendous guilt for his inability to remember things, so I take that all into account when it comes to this. I still can’t help myself sometimes by feeling down as if I’m not as important to him as he is to me. When it comes to birthdays, anniversaries...

My birthday is this coming Thursday, I have a trip planned to see T and when I mentioned I was excited and all I wanted for my birthday was to see him, he replied back with “Tell me the date again babe. I told you you'd have to remind me all the time. I can't remember dates.” Is it normal for...

When I orginally wrote my post, I was so caught up in emotion. I was trying to get out of my head and keep my word to him. It’s not always easy. I’m human.

My letter... “ Tony, when we first met and you opened up to me about your ptsd, I never truly grasped what it was. I honestly had never heard of it. Throughout our relationship I was sad, worried, and thought that if I loved you enough I could save you and heal you. I didn’t understand just how...

As far as communication, I’ve voiced what I felt and he has apologized numerous times and said he will “try harder” because he gets so caught up in his day to day life, by the end of the day, he’s exhausted. So far he’s at least told me goodnight and I love you. Which is progress. And with his...

I’m not trying to change him. All I want is for him to get better. And what I expect from him is simple communication..letting me know how he is every few days without leaving me in the dark. Which I’ve made clear to him is one of the boundaries I have. Also, respect. I won’t allow him to...

he would freak out about very minuscule things and have a full blown rage anxiety attack, I’d become overly emotional and we’d Have to take a breather from eachother until later on he’d come around and apologize for his behavior and we’d continue on having a good date or night. That one huge...

After that incident, he apologized and explained he was feeling extremely insecure about his lack of libido at the time and started taking steroids. He is now clean and taking care of his mental and physical health. His health is his responsibility and I’m glad he’s taking the initiative to get...

I have thought a lot about this over the last year. our children have met, we all love and get along great together. It’s just a matter of his mental well-being and whether it will be something that will improve one day. Because I know if this is how it is, I can’t have my children subjected to...

I appreciate the feedback and advice, although it’s not what I was hoping to hear. He called me today and we caught up on our weekends. He mentioned he started coaching his sons soccer team which has been taking up most of his time. He gets his son every other weekend and has been going through...

Yes alittle over a year and a half. Our relationship ended because I felt as though I was putting forth so much effort. I had a lot of pent up resentment building up. That final argument was what did it for me, but the attachment I had to him is what kept me in contact during the breakup. Even...

there’s a few threads by @Glara that resonated with me. Word for word of her experience, I have been through at one point. I’m trying my hardest to give him the space he seems to want but where does that leave me? When does it come to a point of me giving my all with nothing in return. It’s very...

He never goes more than 3 days without contact, always tells me he loves me, and helps me with things that are going on with my finances, car, or kids. So he does care. It’s the times when he doesn’t contact me or make that effort to close the distance that makes me question what it is I’m...

This is my first thread on the forum, I usually skim through posts and read up on others similar experiences to bring myself some comfort and or find answers. A little back story on my LDR with my USAF Vet with combat PTSD. T and I met summer of 2018 following my fathers death. He was at the...

My partner as well, he is in a motorcycle club, meets people all the time, attends meetings, church, but when it comes to crowds, he can’t handle it. I have so many incidents where he’d lash out at me, due to his anxiety, causing me to become emotional. Once calm, acting as though nothing has...

Several moments when his anxiety and inability to be in crowds has dimmed the light and excitement out of things. He’d freak out and turn cold, later apologizing and having a great night. It never fails tho, those moments of tension rubs off on me and I have to try to shake it off after the fact.

The sexting and want for me and only me at times gets a bit confusing. He’ll have a busy stressful week, almost every week, keeps contact but is kinda dry with his responses, he knows the one boundary I have is to keep communication with me so I know he’s okay. So during the weekends where he...

My boyfriend who suffers from combat PTSD just recently rekindled our relationship again in December. during the time of our breakup, he called me and I had a nice conversation with him, then out of the blue he asked me if I was seeing anyone. I politely told him that I was casually dating, he...

The most helpful thing you can do for her and yourself is to give her that space and time to reflect on what it is she wants. If she loves you like you say she does, once the anger, pain, &hurt subsides from the initial argument, she will contact you. My boyfriend is a usaf combat vet who...

Just recently changed my username and was wondering why I never received a reply. I can empathize with you on this. Part of me feels we got back together because I let go of the relationship and had to put up my own wall to protect myself from getting hurt during the process. I spent a good 5...