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@spinningmytires that's a lot of people in the same family... And you're right, trauma is a common experience, so common in fact that everybody who lived more than a few years (and even then coming out of the womb is a trauma, so our life begins with trauma) has experienced trauma in one form...

Forgot to mention that apparently vets have one of the highest suicide rate amongst different professions...

And your experiences were in US(I assume) but imagine trying to share stuff that happened in Africa or South America 40 years ago. Different living worlds and different mental worlds (normal life versus living in a traumatic environment) meanings that others around you find no common grounds on...

@Ronin I do understand because I also have a rather complex (and long) history and that makes it all the more difficult. And I find it strange that this fact that not being able to share adds another layer of isolation to already isolated individuals is not discussed more in literature about...

I was wondering how many of you found that, on top of suffering from the various physical and psychological consequences of trauma, there's another layer added to this: the isolation caused by not really being able to share the trauma with others. Because let's face it, trauma by it's very...

I agree with earlier comments: give your partner time, for him this "discovery" is a traumatic event in itself and he needs time to process. Put yourself in his place, all that time he thought you were in place "a" and he suddenly discovers that you're wayyyyy over there in place "x", he's...

Interesting topic, didn't expect to find it here. I'm Caucasian and married to a Chinese woman. When I married her a long time ago (25 years) people had all kinds of weird reactions such as "oh I don't know if I could marry a Chinese woman, they're so different from us", or "I've always liked...

Not sure what you mean by "used people like me", what kind of people am I? And again, what you're saying is right and I actually belonged to that category for a long time (people with heavy trauma who don't even recognize it), for instance I was (for reasons that are too long to mention here)...

Actually, but that's another subject altogether, I noticed while browsing places such as Twitter and Reddit that there's trauma and then there's trauma. And by reading on those medias you get the impression that it's "in" to be traumatized and that everybody and their sisters and brothers and...

Thanks for your reply and I find it all the more interesting because I met another person who's been stabbed several times while at war and he was saying basically the same thing, i.e. that the only therapist who really helped him had PTSD himself (so was the victim of trauma and was a veteran)...

Those are good suggestions and I'll sure look into it. Many thanks

Thanks for that and up to a point I agree. As said I did find a therapist and our relationship is very good and as with you she has stuck with me during hard times which I do appreciate immensely. But then we you read someone like Van der Kolk who seems to have proven that trauma not only...

Well maybe you're right Ronin, which is very possible. And that's why I asked the question, I was curious to find out what others thought about the subject. Again thank you all for your input.

I don't belong here Where ever I am, at work, with friends, in my marriage, in the classroom when I was younger, in the school for that matter, in this city, in this country I don't belong here And others see me as not belonging here.

Not even sure this question belongs in this particular forum (please repost in other forum if not appropriate here) I live in Canada and have been looking for a specialized therapist (I suffer from both PTSD AND CPTSD) in vain. I did find a therapist and she's very helpful and therapy does...

Always difficult to give advice and help on what's going on between 2 persons, specially when getting only 1 partner's point of vue. Seems to me also, as has been said, that, trauma or no, alcohol definitively seems to me to be the main problem and until that has somewhat been taken care of you...

TV series: Homecoming About PTSD with Julia Roberts in the first season. Not the best series I've watched but not bad.

Second Doc Martin, he's like me, not very social to say the least...a doctor who's completely oblivious to other people's feelings including his patients. Very entertaining.

Thank you all for your answers and welcome. First (Grit) I never meant to imply that traumatized people are not worth as much as others or should be neglected or shunned in any way. Being one on those I certainly feel I'm worth the best treatment anyone can give me and I always assume others...

Sorry new to this forum so hope I won't say something I'm not supposed to. My thinking goes like this: I'm damaged goods and what "normal" person would be interested in pursuing a long-term relationship with that. So (and I know this from long experience) people like me are most likely to bond...