Recent content by Alistair

I am a sufferer and my wife ended it with me after 8 years. She just told me in the same conversation we were having about selling the house. We are finally selling the house and living apart now. We still spend evenings together and had a garage sale together today. Deep feelings are just...

I've lost my marriage and my home over this. Don't let that happen to you. Don't ask your girlfriend to hate you, ask her what she wants to see you do....and then make a plan to make those things happen. ..and do the hardest part first. Her love for you will grow a thousand-fold.

YouTube. The two I use are the green dot on a black background. They have helped me keep my marriage intact whole we are separated.

Historic dominant power base? I don't have driver or a membership to a private club or my own tailor, so who's objectifying now? I'm a white 55 year old male who's struggling with profound mental health challenges that have recently resulted in the loss of my business, the seperation from my...

I must have misunderstood the tone of this forum. I didn't realise it was so politically correct. If you see someone heading for a cliff edge, do you not say anything?

I can actually think of many. Some of which damage my ability to grow as a person at a very young age. I'm dealing with this and many other things in therapy now.

Hmmm....are you sure?

Of course being offended is a normal part of bring human. Triggering isn't. I am a sufferer myself and am learning to dissociate from triggers is the challenge in seeking mental clarity and health. Now, my triggers are vastly different that those of the OP, but the mechanisms are identical...

Difficult situation, but fact remains. It's not what happens, it's how one reacts. No blame intended.

A man communicating this way is a fool at best.

As a male I will say that your reaction to a simple, yet might I say, insensitive comment is the tell. Until you can not be triggered by such things, you will not be getting well. Knowing the feminist buzz-words roots you in the triggers. Mental health means not being triggered.

Certain things trigger therapists as well. I am one and sone things you just gave to go with, even though they wouND you too. We are all human and can't switch the heart off all the time.

As a high I. Q. Person myself and a therapist it is a tough road to walk when suffering PTSD as we all are here. If you want to develop a treatment for yourself, as I did, then you are free to, but please don't expect too much from those not as bright as you. They are genuinely doing what they...

My anxiety has historically been incapacitating. I found my mother dwas when I was 15 and my life stopped.. I'm 55 now and my wife and I are separated. This has my anxiety through the roof, but thankfully I discovered EMDR and it has changed my life..so much so that my wife has hinted at...

Felt that the community here would embrace her and validate her behaviour. Nice brain.