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My boyfriend is in treatment and avoids it. He asked me to find him a place to get help during/after a huge meltdown that he had. I found him a program the next day. At first he was excited, but since he isn't seeing immediate results and it pulls him out of his comfort zone, every single week...

Woah, we all have a later in life high school sweetheart thing going on haha:p

Brown-eyed-girl I'd be happy to chat if you ever want to...message me anytime. I've been in my relationship for around a year...a little over...we were together a while before it was "official" due to his ptsd. I'm in the same kind of thing as you...we went to high school together...kinda...

If I had a nickel for every time I've thought this I'd own a mansion... Do try and talk with him about it when you aren't wound up or feeling rejected. Me and my man did have some little disagreements over this initially because I really didn't understand it and it just made me feel guilty...

I've been debating therapy, I don't know what to do. I feel as if I go to therapy he's going to assume he's 'ruining my life' to the point I need a therapist. I know he already feels that way. I've tried working out and doing heavy bag cardio, like boxing. It helps some.

I totally understand this. Just keep telling yourself it isn't you. I have a really difficult time understanding if he doesn't want me. Some days we're so close and in love otherwise that it seems like the thing to do and then he is completely disinterested. He tells me its just not really on...

Some days I just want to shake him and say "Please! Just one thing at a time!" and other days I just want to hug him. Such is life.

Ok here's the deal because I need to vent and I need advice badly. Bf got a DUI on Thanksgiving. Had been drinking daily,even in between classes/during the day, not looking for a job, etc, so it was really only a matter of time. He has since stopped drinking, hasn't touched it since the...

Having a tough week, how about you guys?

I do the same thing with my sweetie. I try and think really hard before I speak when we have a problem, this allows me to get my point across in fewer words and with less unbridled emotion. I've used the email thing in the past too and he responded very kindly to it. Since I was able to make...

In my case at least my boyfriend doesn't go into seclusion, not anymore. I think I keep his life together sometimes so he wouldn't even be able to do this. But a lot of the time I have to accept a friendship type of relationship, I'm just glad lately he's been trusting me enough to not run away...

Thank you for your replies. I'm learning to appreciate the good when he can offer it and not pressure him when he can't. It is indeed a tough pill to swallow when you feel unwanted. I'm trying to read as much as I can so I know the best ways to respond to any potential situation, I want him to...

Hello, I'm new here but I have been reading posts on here for quite awhile. My boyfriend of around a year is a combat PTSD sufferer who has just started seeking help. Some of the help was by choice (therapy/vitamins) and some of the help was forced (alcohol problems being tended to...