Recent content by boodle

@Newtoptsd I'm so sorry you are going through this. I feel for you as my relationship with my ex was around the same length and took a similar route. Thank-you for your support for me along my path too. Its so important for supporters to question if PTSD is the only issue. As I said on a...

Hugs to you @elisearmour and good luck :hug:

Sorry @elisearmour that I was the bearer of disappointing news, but I would rather be honest with you than sugar coating things. I have only just been piecing together the lies and false life of my ex. She had cptsd and I think the reason I put up with all the sh*tty behaviour was because of...

I agree with @Friday it is not a PTSD thing. The pattern with my ex was the same. The thing is PTSD can be comorbid with any number of other issues such as Cluster B personality disorders. Obviously a professional would need to diagnose that. There's always the possibility he has been diagnosed...

Yes, very similar childhood to my ex. The frustrating thing is that they end up sabotaging the chance of love that they wanted.

I really feel for you @Devastatedginger Its quite possible that PTSD is not the only issue that your partner has. It could be co-morbid with another issue, or it could be just plain bad behaviour. From my own experience my ex had Cptsd, but that did not explain the abuse, blaming, the compulsive...

@TheMinsterman hugs to you if you will accept them :hug: @grimalkin hugs to you too if you will accept them :hug:, your story is similar to mine in so many ways. I will check out that book you're working through too.

I've been watching this thread with great interest @TheMinsterman and although, as you know, I split with my ex in January it has enabled me to understand some more of why she did what she did, and I did what I did. One point you made in your post I think you be key to why you are suffering so...

Yes, it happened to me too. My ex was fine with friends when in a shut-out with me, they would have no idea anything was wrong.

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It makes perfect sense @grimalkin I too always seperated my ex's actions from the real her. I always told her I loved her, the condition was not the real her. However she was not prepared to figure it out or go into therapy. She was only prepared for avoidance with alcohol and cannabis, so I had...

@tiredtexan I cannot express strongly enough how much I agree with @heyheyhey, please listen to her for your health and sanity's sake. I have only just begun to realise something really bad was going on this since splitting with my abusive SO. I spent hours, days, weeks, months, trying to work...

@tiredtexan your SO sounds borderline to me with what you described. Try this eyeopening site, Top 100 Traits & Behaviors I hope it helps you as much as it did for me.

I agree with @Snowflakes Although I was an open book, my ex for some reason suddenly told me she had been checking up on my financial affairs and my business affairs. She accused me of not being who I said I was and said she had been fooled by me. This came out of the blue to me. They have...