Recent content by BradyLady

I'm very sorry this happened to you. It's bad enough by itself, but then facing stigma and disbelief makes it worse.

There was an episode of SVU not too long ago that dealt with this topic. A female parole officer was sexually violating a man who was supposed to report to her for his drug testing. When he spoke up, she planted evidence in his apartment and had him arrested. In the end justice was done, but I...

My first husband was abusive. It didn't take me long to figure out how to shut him down when he called me stupid, though. All I had to do was answer, "Yes, I sure am stupid. Look who I married." Oh, that would make him so mad, knowing he walked right into that one. Brings to mind something I've...

I was late learning to drive a car. I mean, really late. In my forties. Reason, nobody ever bothered to teach me. I'd always been brainwashed to think I was too damaged and defective to be able to learn. That's neglect for you. Fail to teach me a basic life skill (while teaching my younger...

Ask my family, and they will probably rave on about how amazingly and outstandingly brilliant I am. (I'm not. My IQ is above average, but that's all. I'm not a genius, and I'm nothing unusual.) However, in practice, they've also made it plain they think I'm dumber than a dog biscuit. I don't...

I'm fortunate that my medical care, both physical and mental, all comes from the same company and the same clinic. My doctors can communicate with each other too. Both appointments are going to be followed up in 15 days. My psychologist would really like for my husband to be there. Oh, and guess...

I'm going to the doctor's office later today. I've been having severe, barely tolerable depression and also a lot of physical pain. Hard to know which is chicken and which is egg, since both conditions worse the other. Fortunately I'm seeing both my psychologist and my primary care doctor. I...

@Silver. Where the PTSD comes in, I think, is that *mine* is being grated on when this keeps happening. I'm starting to wonder if maybe I'm just not worthy of the half second it takes to listen to me. Any time I say something twice, I feel like a nag. When he's not at work, there isn't a time...

Thank you. I'm sorry. I'm feeling a little defensive.

So it's my fault, then? It usually is.

That's pretty much what I was going to come into the thread to say. But you said it, so now I don't have to. I want to make the point too that physical affection and sex are not the same thing. I say this because it is a problem that has come up in my life before. Previous marriage. All I...

You'll need to know, both of us have PTSD, I have chronic depression as well, my husband suspects he is on the autism spectrum, and it wouldn't surprise me at all if he is Avoidant. He doesn't like conflict of any kind. That's for sure. An issue comes up over and over again. The script is...

My ex used to do that to me. Once he was spouting off about some very strong opinion he had, and I actually agreed with him, but when I said so, he was visibly disturbed by that. So he changed the subject and grumbled about something else controversial. I noticed that the more I empathized with...

I'm in the same position. My husband and I both have PTSD. Sometimes I simply cannot express an emotion. Especially if I'm speaking up about something that bothers me, he feels attacked. He'll turtle up on me, close off completely into his shell which frustrates me because if we can't talk about...

Although my husband and I both have PTSD, I know it's different in individual cases. We are not all going to have the same symptoms showing up in the same way. So, I have that exaggerated startle reflex, and my husband appears not to. Early in our marriage, as we were getting undressed for...