Recent content by Breeze

Justmehere - I'm so terribly sorry I think I've made a terrible mistake posting on here. I haven't explained myself well at all and it's a great shame I can't delete the thread, if I could, I certainly would. I'm sorry you feel as you do and that I have poor interpersonal skills, but I would...

Anarchy, I can't thank you enough! I've done some research into developmental trauma and it seems to fit in so many ways! All I have read so far on the subject I have seen in the friend I know - including repeated patterns of what happened when he was a child in adult relationships, so many...

Thank you for your thoughts so far. When I was on here before, as I've seen suggested to many people, I went to see a counsellor myself but I'm afraid I didn't find that of much use for me personally at all. I will give a little more information as this person is now in his 60s and has been...

I haven't been on here for quite a long time but have always found a lot help and support for which I am most grateful. I just have a question please about a friend who has chronic PTSD of many years standing but I am also now wondering if it may be something else as well as this. He told me...

You know I don't really understand how this friend request business works on facebook. I never wanted to go on there and kicked against if for years, but people kept asking me all the time so a few weeks ago I went on with a friends only page. I have got at times friend requests from people I...

I think a lot of people use ignoring as they find it winds people up more. Ignoring to me is almost an abuse in itself in a way. I'm quite straight and like people to know what I feel so I would go with the suggestion of blocking. To me, if you don't want any contact with someone you make it...

Please don't worry shimmerz I fully understood what you meant and thank you for the heads up, I've had other people say the same really. I'm to look to my own needs more and balanced give and take friendships so thank you for what you said, I did know what you were trying to say. I think most...

Shimmerz - I tried, that is all I can say. I don't cope well with silence and I felt controlled at times, I just did what I could, that's all. It's over now. It may have been more than PTSD, I'm unsure. I would never turn him away even now if he came back and needed a friend, rightly or...

Thank you for your very kind words, rightkindofme, much appreciated. It was regarding another thread where I said far less, but I think when someone is worried about another or in a bad place themselves, it is hard to put paragraphs or punctuation in the front of our minds. Rules are rules...

Thank you for your reply. I'm afraid I've been warned about my grammar again and also how the traumatic brain can't cope with too much text. I am aware of this. I'm just no good all round. I'm devastated that i couldn't deal with my friend properly and I can't cope with how to type posts...

What helps...Stay calm, step back, breathe and reply to them 'later' rather than a knee jerk reaction. What to avoid...Try not to lose your temper, much easier said than done. Don't keep trying to contact them. Maybe one text a night is OK, I tried this at one time and it worked. Other than...

I agree with some of the things that have been said very much. It was quite odd as when I only knew this friend as an acquaintance I was aware of him going silent but had no idea why he did it, but not having that much contact i didn't pay too much attention to it. Since we became closer...

Thank you both for your informative replies and I have taken on what you have said. Strangely, he would very rarely ask for space and I think this must have been because that was what he had been used to. I remember saying one time to him if he wanted his down time, as I called it, would he...

I do apologise in advance if I don't put things in the right way. I have only posted once before and got a warning about grammar I think and I am in a pretty bad state due to walking on eggshells for a couple of years which has left me having to visit my own doctor this week having broken out...

I'm unsure if I should have actually posted this thread or if I may have said something I shouldn't have that might have upset anyone. Could one of the moderators delete the thread please as I feel unsure about my comments. Thank you very much for the replies though.