Recent content by Calendula

Funny enough, he brought up the topic and asked if there was a reason why I was hesitant to move forward. I think he picked up that something was bothering me... I only told him about a recent sexual assault, I didn't want to talk about more intense traumas. He was very nice about it and asked...

I'm 20

I've been dating someone for about 4 months now. This is my first relationship. I'm starting to feel as if I should be sleeping with him. However, I know I'm not ready for that yet. I don't want to explicitely tell him my readons yet I still want to have a conversation and see where he stands...

You make a lot of great points. I've gotten to know him a bit better since my post and he's extremely respectful and he should honestly receive a medal for his understanding of consent. I sometimes feel like it's going a bit too fast, but I've mentioned it to him casually and I think he tries to...

I completely understand your point, I highly dislike labels. I think that it helps people to make sense of situations. It helps differentiate certain connections. I think that you should try to find words that you are comfortable with and that don't put as much pressure on you. If you don't want...

I am honestly not sure if I am ready. Right now, it feels like I'm testing myself. He is very respectful and seems very conscious of boundaries and consent, which I appreciate a lot. Although, he seems a lot more invested in this relationship than I am. It's moving a bit fast for me. I think...

I do like him a lot, which I think makes my anxiety worse because I feel like I need to put up a wall. He's very smart and I really enjoy spending time and talking with him. I find him attractive too. But for some reason there's just something that makes me want to run everytime he tries to make...

I've recently started seeing someone. I've never dated before and that was quite a big step for me. However, I'm having a lot of doubts and anxieties about it all. I have a history of csa and also was recently sexual assaulted/harrassed. I find it really hard to be intimate with this new guy...

I was on cipralex for 2 yrs or so for anxiety (I had not been diagnosed with PTSD at the time, even though I did have it.) Cipralex didnt do much for me. Now, I'm on Sertraline and it works wonders. It definitely helps with depression and general anxiety. Medication is great for when you need a...

Hi, I am so sorry that this happened to you. I was sexually abused by another girl (who was actually my age) when I was younger. I conpletely understand the taboo that surrounds it.. If you want you can definitely message me. I understand that it can feel isolating to go through this.. Take...

I had a friend sexually assault me a few months ago. I was sexually abused as a child so his actions actually caused him to become a huge trigger for me. I feel my stomach drop and get panic attacks when someone mentions him. Anyway, I have to attend an event which he is also attending in a...

I am so sorry that this happened to you.. I hope that you are able to find some clarity soon. I recommend that you find some professional help to process this. Just talking about it out loud can do wonders. The important part is to talk to your close friends and SO when you are ready. Don't feel...

I get those chest pains often. I usually just allow myself to take things slow when it happens. I like to lay down on my back (or sit if I'm in public/ sometimes I lock myself in a bathroom if I need to be alone) and take some deep breaths. I usually try to visualize void (space, ocean, etc.)...

Hi, I recently smoked pot for the first time and the following day was actually rejuvenating. I felt so relaxed and I had a great night of sleep. I know that it is not a long-term solution, but sometimes the triggers are too much and I can see how cannabis might help with the anxiety and panic...

Thank you so much for the response. It actually helps a lot. You are right, my depression does give me a lot of doubts which I don't need to worry about.