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This comes from a survivor. Whoever has the place of survivor in your life as supporter is fortunate indeed. I'd have loved it if my husband had even tried to recognize the struggles I dealt with as a survivior. Instead he blamed me for things that were my fault, were not my fault, were his...

Hi Fade.....I just saw your post today and read through the thread. You are behaving with incredible strength and I felt I had to tell you that. It's so easy to just keep beating yourself up for things that aren't your fault. If you want to spend a day in bed then I hope you will allow that for...

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@GWhizz I wanted to respond to the comment you made about the abuse you suffered at the hands of your father being your fault because you allowed it. My abuse matches yours in that it was done by our fathers. I think I wrestled harder with that issue (I allowed it so I have to take...

@Hooper It was definitely meant as a compliment - I could have used the word 'humble' instead. I'm (and I'm guessing everyone else is too) looking forward to hearing how the therapy goes. As for not seeing yourself as extraordinary in terms of being open to your feelings, that is exactly...

I use a software package called "Hotspot". You do have to pay but it's not expensive and it hides your ISP - you can set things up so it looks as though you're in a different country. It's also great for gaining access to Youtube videos, etc. that are restricted to the country of origin. It...

@Hooper Re therapy. I understand your personal choice not to delve all the way back into childhood experiences if you don't feel there's a need. But there are different kinds of therapy and some are meant to be short-term. Cognitive therapy is an example. You are quite self-effacing. Maybe you...

@Dana1010 Sorry the site wasn't to your liking. I haven't found her comments shallow in general at all - in fact, some good insights. But we're all different. As to figuring out why a psychopath would marry, I haven't even bothered asking the question because plenty do. They just don't feel...

@Hooper I read your post and all that followed - your further comments included. I'm a survivor and female - just so you know who's sharing with you. Although I agree with what almost everyone said, it strikes me that there is little here that's been offered to you around your pain. It's clear...

@Mallaky You are really impressive and doing a great job at centering yourself from the sound of it. I hope you give yourself credit for that. If you don't, do. There is something called "Binaural Beats". If you go to YouTube you'll find plenty to choose from to help with just about anything...

@Dana1010 For what it's worth, I wouldn't give a second thought to choosing a life as a psychopath. While there is a kind of freedom in it, it seems to me that mostly it's a freedom from a) guilt that would be appropriate and even helpful on-the-road-to-self-actualization (just check out all...

@Dana1010 There is a website that you may find quite helpful with your struggle. It's specifically about psychopaths and love and the author (who has also published some books on the subject) is respectful and insightful. Like here, there is a lot of inter-dialogue with others on the various...