Recent content by CDKLaw

Thank you. That's very good advice about the therapy. I will try that one next time I go. And I feel more confident to think about boundaries and how I will put them in now.

What an informative post! I really appreciate the time and thought you have put into helping me. I feel that you are on the money about everything and it's helped me to see things clearer. This is exactly what I needed so thank you for all the wisdom. I'm going to try some of these things that...

That's horrific. That's practically assault in my eyes. I don't know the legality of the situation. You have definitely been violated. No wonder you can't move past it. It's not your fault.

I totally relate to this. It really annoys my wife how I can't stop picking away.

The complicated part about it is that I used to be violent and have anger issues. We were both violent but I was a lot worse. It wasn't just her. I would get totally out of control in public and behave aggressively. I was so abusive. But I hated myself and acknowledged what I was doing was...

This is completely ridiculous. Why on earth haven't they fired this individual? Threats of violence are clearly grounds for instant dismissal. Only an individual with serious anger issues would say something like this. I don't understand why you are being treated as if you are being over...

Thanks Kolten. I have been working hard in therapy for 4 years. I also have started a professional acting career and, though I've had success and am getting paid work, it's really stressful. I feel at my limits. Thought I should let you know that my wife and I are both women. It's a same sex...

That was a really helpful message. Thanks. She won't answer me when I ask. She just says she will do it but she never does as she is a doctor and works all the time. She does not keep promises or anything like that. When we come to agreements about boundaries and how we handle disagreements, she...

Thank you. Any response is helpful. Yes, I have had a therapist for years but I feel embarrassed to talk about it because I'm in a cycle and I think it frustrates my therapist. I kind of just don't find it very helpful to speak to my therapist. It's not her fault. It's just that there is only so...

My wife behaves in a way and says things to me regularly that diminish my self-esteem, then I feel really ill and I'll take ages to recover. I'll pull myself back up again with lots of effort but the next time she is angry she will do the same things. If I ask for a change or express that my...

Yes, I hate authority. It makes me panicky and angry. I tend to avoid people and struggle in the work place because of this.

@Catherine167 My brother was in the British Army for a while. He got medical discharge a few months after finishing basic training and he was very anxious at times. The superiors could be very unfair and nasty in their behaviour. You are in a brutal environment. I would hate it. I would be a...

You absolutely have a right to have PTSD. If you insist that you 'shouldn't' have it because others have been through worse, you are invalidating yourself. Also, being in the military would be terrifying and sometimes you panic after experiences and cope well at the time. I think you are so...

This is a problem I have with my wife. Because she, for some reason, has refused to do any reading about my CPTSD, she behaves as if she thinks I am just work shy. Even if she sees how distressed i am, she refuses to acknowledge it. She sees somebody that tries to stay calm, does the housework...

Thank you