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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    Very much so I am trying to move w all my might even within my town. Have lots of "stuff" this also in part to my breakup w my Mom but yes I also had lots of stuff. I am trying very hard faltering at times dealing w an apt w a cracked foundation....was fighting for a rent credit didn't get that...
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    Small things, great victories. What’s yours?

    One week sober. For me that's the longest stretch in awhile. Through stress and triggers big ones over last week I didn't drink.
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    Narcissistic Mother, How to Respond

    I understand this need to tell your Mom how she hurt you. I can very much relate to your story. It sounds as if she is narcissistic and that's why she can blame you and scapegoat you. I needed to go through lawyers to get my birth certificate from my Mom but if you can order it than do that. If...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    Yes I would love to move. I do have barriers to this. I am trying to move within even my region very very hard! I am looking into housing helps. As far as a further move. I think that would be tremendous for my safety physically mentally and legally. But yes my Mom also stalked me. I am not a...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    Joey Little a lot of what you said made sense but a lot of what the other person said did not make sense and was about her. I chose to block her. That also is my choice. I do not have black or white thinking but I did ask for advice and you gave me some good advice. I do think estrangement in my...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    I don't know about that. It leaves scars I read an article that I wont share here maybe that was very incisive. Your son left you prefer it that way. You said so. You prefer estrangement for whatever reasons. My Moms were not valid in my opinion. It was about defending her abuser husband and...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    I will try to stay no contact for as long as I can if not forever. I don't know. It would be very stupid of me to go right back when this thing expires. I believe she would expect that and I think there would be some longing for this but I am trying to plan for this. I do really wish I had a...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    Im sorry that's the way it is. I feel the same about my Mom too while at the same time wanting peace with her. someday. I don't know if it's possible. I am told no contact is the way. It sounds as if you want it that way. I don't know but I pray for peace...inner and outer for all people...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    Do I? Thank you. I am not when it comes to my dysf family I think. I am forced into no contact. I did remind myself I am safe...after seeing my 1/2 sister but it's a horrific dynamic that I and even she though I know it doesn't bother her as much were thrust into. It's easier to believe that I...
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    Life is short. Perhaps you should tell him you love him and leave out labels and age and weight differences. I am open to others advice ab my situation and hypervigilance and anxiety etc.
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    The Shunning/ I have to be on high alert

    I am sorry and thanks for any kindness..... My Mom also used this against me I think....it's a bias it's a label it doesn't define your son as an abuser or you as an abuser. I am sorry you are estranged and or went through the courts. When that happens well it should not happen unless things...
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    Alcoholism

    Thank you for the encouragement Olive Jewel:). I felt discouraged on another thread here today whilst trying so hard! I don't judge ppl for how they deal w their trauma at least I hope not to. I have experienced alot tons of judgement for how I deal with it. I have been told to "just get over...
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    Alcoholism

    Yes I do. And I am having bad GI symptoms stress. I know I remember you that you have had a stretch of sobriety. That's good. I am aiming for that and trying not to let circs and isolation get to me and both are bad but will drinking help it or my GI no. Not really. Thanks for saying the 5 days...
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    Sexual Assault Struggling with my abusor

    I agree that abused ppl who say they were abused sexually..that's an esp hard one to come out with sometimes takes years are almost never lying. Once in a blue moon but there is shame around this and just most ppl don't lie about this.
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    Alcoholism

    I want to drink today. I am about 5 days sober. Life is hard right now. Feeling judged and in trauma. Saw fam member yest whom last time saw in court. So sad. Fractured fam b/c of my Mom and stepdad not me but she would of course say otherwise. It was her choice. The violence the drama the...
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