Recent content by Futuremrs

Well I guess I have to at least try. If my feelings don't change I know I deserve to be happy and not worry if I'm going to get cheated on. I feel like it's going to take me time to completely trust again like I did before. We used to be great together until I found out he cheated. Things just...

Thanks for the insight I really appreciate it. He did say he would go to anger management or some type of therapy now.

He does try to control me and he is selfish but I don't usually listen. He didn't forbid me from going to a counselor he just didn't want to go. Forbade was the wrong word he got really mad and didn't want me to tell his family or my family and friends. Well when people found out he was a...

Yeah I agree. I did it anyway and he got mad. I still do feel weird talking about it with my friends cause most of them don't agree. I'm really torn. He gave up his job and is starting over because I told him I couldn't stay with him if he went back overseas for my own sanity. Now I just don't...

He cheated on me for about the first year of our relationship when he was overseas. I know people cheat because something is missing and obviously sex was because we were apart not that I'm justifying it. He's really trying and he really loves me, I know that. I can't help but still feel...

So he agreed to work on things himself and if he does and in 6 months things aren't better in my opinion he will go back to therapy. He got mad when I said could we make it shorter or change the wedding date. I wasn't sure how to deal with that. He said we will do it my way so why does it...

So we were going to therapy and it was 200 an hour for a visit and he wasn't actually applying anything. So I couldn't keep paying for it if he didn't want help. I suggested the vet center and he blew up at me. Apparently I'm manipulating and selfish and he hates me. I'm really not and I know...

Thanks. I'm trying to take care of myself. I wanted to go to the supporter sessions through the va. He ended up agreeing to get help so I didn't go to those. I feel like he's very controlling inadvertently because so many things make him angry. We stopped getting help because he hates crying and...

I do think about postponing it or just calling it off all together. I keep asking myself can I do this for the rest of my life. I feel like a bad person for doing that. I've already asked all my bridesmaids and everyone loves him because they don't know how it really is. I feel like I can't tell...

I don't know what to do I am so lost and confused. Background is my fiancé didn't want a gf when we got together because of an abusive ex wife. I didn't push it and didn't want a bf either because I had just gotten out of a relationship. It just felt right and it was his idea completely. We...

Yeah, I know that look. I try to do that, but sometimes I catch myself wondering what I am doing. Why I am putting myself through this. I love him and he tries very hard to make me happy when he can. Thanks we're going to a wedding show tomorrow! It's the first real wedding thing we've done...

I don't know what to do anymore, everything makes him angry. Today it's me. He's finally in therapy and I thought we were at least doing a little better, but I guess not. I was on the phone with my best friend too long and bothered him. He's back into his world of video games ignoring me. It's...

My vet does say mean things and lash out. He calls me retarded and accuses me of making stuff up because he doesnt remember a lot of things. It's hard to not take it personally especially because I hate lying and would never just do it to be right. I've learned that it escalates quickly and when...

Thanks you. He said he will go to therapy with a civilian doctor he just doesn't want to at the va. He's had very bad experiences there and the only support group I know is there. That's why I think he doesn't want me to go there.

How old is he if you don't mind me asking. Yeah, it's so hard! He doesn't like the idea of me going to support groups or anything. I don't think he realizes the toll it takes in other people (mostly me.) I'm around him almost all the time so that's hard too. He hates therapists and hasn't been...