Recent content by fyredrift23

I'm sorry you've been struggling with getting out of bed and moving through each day. I definitely know how that feels and how difficult it is. I've been feeling like that lately, for sure, and COVID stress has kicked my butt for months (I'm in the US). I've started listening to music more...

I have certainly struggled with ( and continue to struggle with) comparing my trauma situations to others and believing that whatever I have gone through just "isn't as bad as [insert here]" I kind of identify with both sides of the life trauma coin, though. I've been through many different...

@Eleanor Thank you for what you said, it was all very eye-opening for me (and I hope others as well!). I've never heard that about discipline and developmental trauma before. Honestly, I'm very new to the idea of developmental trauma itself, so lots of learning goin on round my way, lol...

Good on you for going! I think our inner strength shines through when we can push to seek help even though everything in us is screaming to stay home. You are rejecting suffering, and you are actively choosing to confront what's troubling you rather than try to run from it. Great job!! :tup:

Volunteering really helps me feel more relaxed. I've helped out at churches, a food pantry and animal shelters (including at a vet clinic connected to one of the shelter groups). @sun seeker, you said you lived in a rural area? If there are any ranches/farms with animals nearby, could you ask...

I definitely clench my teeth (usually while I'm sleeping at night-I wake up with achy teeth :/ ) I'll fidgit, feel generally restless and not at ease, and I'll feel a frustrated/angry/sad all at once. It's kinda hard to describe. I didn't know other people felt this too! I know I'm over-stressed...

I still haven't yet, lol, and I've been seeing my "T" regularly for 3 years! It's not that easy for some of us. In my case, I have residual beliefs from growing up with my parents, especially my mom. I learned authority figures, who I classify my T as, will not give me what I need if I don't...

I'm so glad it helped! Basically, I'm still figuring that one out myself, lol. But, I do think the others were onto something regarding taking on the shame of abusers. We can substitute 'abusers' for anything that feels appropriate, but it's as if shame is a cloud, and, once someone creates...

Such an interesting thread, with varying viewpoints. @Valentino I also appreciate your quotes and assertions. I'll have to check Bradshaw out. I actually understood what he was saying, and I appreciate the direct, scientific perspective. Brene Brown just isn't doin it for me, lol...

I have a male therapist, and I'm female. I love my T! He's great! We've been working together for going on 3 straight years, now. I don't want you to think that sorta trust develops overnight! It's taken a lot of time, effort, and patience for us to reach the connection level we're on. It...

@Valentino I just read your post after posting mine. Thank you for finding the excerpt that so brilliantly supported my point! I could not for the LIFE of me figure out what was missing from Brown's assertions, and yes! there it is! Social context! Inclusivity! Recognition of humanity's...

You're very welcome, it's an interesting thread! It's kinda half-and-half. I have trouble opening up to him about certain topics in therapy, and the shame surrounding the topics also prevent me from discussing these issues (and others that make me uncomfortable) with my loved ones and any one...

Aww man, so bogus, so unfair of this Dr (I absolutely refuse to say "professional"). It's all a matter of personal opinion, remember that. Just because she's supposed to be a bigshot know-it-all "expert" in her field, it does not mean that she's had a ton of varied experiences with different...

@fly away home I'm sorry she broke that professional barrier with you (and made you feel like :poop: in the process) Shouldn't have happened. Really. If it keeps bothering you, though, you may want to try to bring it up at a pace that works for you :) I haven't had any negative...

@Philippa Well, yes, all humans, and especially those dealing with traumatic histories, are technically vulnerable. What I think @The Albatross was getting at was about us actually displaying that vulnerability. The whole point (and innate, ongoing challenge) of therapy is for the...