Recent content by ghotiff

Are you trying too hard? You are going through a challenging period that you have deemed worthy of your resources...but it means your resources are running on low. Now is the time to allow your energy to go where you have decided to and choose minimal items for your limited remaining energy...

I have a strong freeze response which seems to match what you're describing. A clear trigger then I freeze, can't move, brain shouts internally to the person who is triggering me to stop (typically not their fault and they couldn't know). My breathing changes to be invisible (which means...

I agree with digger. Trust is earned, a nanny can't earn your trust without the chance. I don't know your trauma but maybe it's relevant to your lack of trust. Mine was childhood sexual abuse. Looking back I know it impacted my ability to trust people with my child. If I could have changed...

I've got nothing constructive to say. You need a break. I'm not sure how you can get one, but you need one. One thing that helped me (but it sounds really wrong) was that I tried to get the best crying photo I could. It gave me a break by changing my perspective for a few minutes. I've met...

Maybe write it and a few days after you wrote it read it again and consider if sharing it will help or hinder you and your recovery. But...if the process of writing it sends your recovery backward then stop. You could also write two statements, one from eg 3months ago when your symptoms were...

People (normals) forget things under stress, it's just that "normals" wouldn't likely find the your er event as stressful as we would. But, I'm glad they took your injury seriously.

I'm 40ish and count me in. It's partly after exploring (and failing) for years and years at finding medical solutions that I took the plunge to start trauma therapy. All my problems are still present but they are far less debilitating than they were a couple of years ago. For example i can...

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Thought we might :hug: My T tried to explain the "why" of the trigger to me once but I didn't get it and due to costs I've had to take a break from therapy.

I wanted to say that being misunderstood is a trigger for me, particularly when I have done everything "right" and the misunderstanding is because of others overly quick conclusions. Your thread was and is very clear. Other people reading in other irrelevant facts is on them. I just want to...

I wouldn't ask for "how" to take a day off before you do it. I'd learn your rights (eg can you take 1 day off without a medical certificate and what are the rules, eg do you have to call in the morning to tell them). Then, if you can, just take the day and claim a physical manifestation of...

Some workplaces are quieter than others. I got lucky with mine. What helped me... - taking breaks from people/areas - preemptive self soothing - headphones or earmuffs reduced the impact of the noise - reminding myself eg "it's just John, he is always noisy, he is just as safe as before"

I love your definition of normal. Now I know what to aim for.

@Justmehere it hadn't even occurred to me to ever blame or hold accountability to my abusers previous victims, so much so I didn't even think of that point when reading the opening post. So I agree with you wholeheartedly.

I reported as a child, I remember going to the police station etc. and I was told he was convicted. I rang the police station recently and apparently there is no record of me reporting, me going or his conviction. According to the police it never happened. So, with this completely negative...