Recent content by HopefulD

I agree enthusiastically!!!!!

I think your response is much like alot of supporters. We think rationally minus the anxiety which I too suffer from. Your guy is not thinking rationally and we can't fix it. The waiting game and being shut out makes us worry and our thoughts turn negative blaming ourselves etc It's like a...

It's been very hard for me to move on. Mainly because I still love him and have much empathy and compassion this time around. Before when this would happen I had alot of anger. I've educated myself since then a great deal on combat PTSD and I now understand this has nothing to do with me. He has...

I think that grief stage is the worst. Grieving and with no closure but hearing he's talked to others really blows. It also just proves his selfish,self centered behavior. I can feel your hurt in your words and I'm sorry. I really am. I was there a few weeks ago. I've come to my own peace for a...

VERY well said. Very much needed said from both perspectives. Empathy and compassion and compromise is required for all in a relationship. Friday I applaud you ??

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this kind of sh*t show. This really p*sses me off because he made the choice to lie and cheat then run. On BOTH of you. Which requires planning and hiding things from you both. Which is UNACCEPTABLE. PTSD is no excuse for this. NO EXCUSE.

Absolutely correct :) Which is why I have more compassion and empathy for those struggling.

I understand. I'm seeing this from the outside of this cross conversation. I know I get upset when in this world someone knows they have a problem, knows help is available but is in unwilling to help themselves. Yet on the sufferers side it's a living hell and going for therapy for me was like...

She doesn't understand the trauma and the thought process of the sufferer completely. While her choice of words may offend, the hurt and confusion she feels is real. Many of us who are supporters go through alot of anger trying to understand PTSD.

Mine functions everyday at his gov contractor job. No problem. Continues his contract and no one is the wiser. I've heard from many that the sufferer can function just fine on a daily basis with their jobs. However emotional and intimate relationship's are very difficult to maintain for them...

That's combat PTSD. If they aren't in treatment it will not get better. If they refuse treatment you can't make them. It's terrible and hurtful to watch and be a part of their decision not to seek treatment.Therefore you have to decide if this is what you want. You really have to take care of...

Unfortunately this is the bs of PTSD. Screws with your head and your heart. You will get the typical answer on here " decide if you want this type of relationship". Truth is they need help and coping mechanisms and most don't or won't. That leaves us supporters screwed. It will make you think...

I'm sorry. That's got to be very painful :(

From one supporter to another. It really makes your head and heart hurt terribly. I've been through it and I'm going through it again. Mine comes back after several months. Maybe he won't this time. Who the hell knows. It's the unknown that makes us nuts. The why and the WTF?? Asking and pushing...

Struggling today with myself. I continue reaching out. No replies. And I get that. Yet sometimes I'm angry and frustrated about being ignored. Then I kick myself and remind myself to remember when I was in the throes of shutting down. So I reach out, funny memes, Happy Halloween, nothing heavy...