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    My first appointment

    It is a difficult balance, I think when you have complex and lifelong traumas obviously 12 weeks of CBT is not going be the cure all, however it can still help. At the end of the 16 sessions I had, I still felt little change but reflecting back on it now after a few years I can see that there...
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    My first appointment

    Hi @SunsetDawn83, it sounds like you are in the UK is that right? The NHS services that are offered through IAPT (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies) are short term interventions, on the whole these are the services you can self refer to. They tend to not be able to support with cPTSD...
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    Healthy Minds

    I accessed a similar service in my area. It was really helpful and a great starting point to understanding better what is going on for you and implementing some coping and regulation skills. The assessment isn't too intrusive, they will just be wanting to get a sense of what things are like...
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    Childhood Struggling with intimacy due to incestual COCSA, family childhood trauma

    Hi @z3phyr, welcome! I had similar experiences with an older brother and similar issues as a result. For me the more I process and accept what happened the less it impacts on my relationship now. If possible, as with other intrusive thoughts or images, try to let them pass by without getting...
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    Slowly getting there - Any insight on what happens next in UK after GP referral?

    May well be worth researching your local Talking Therapies option and self refer. It is most likely this is what the GP would do or suggest you do. You could do that and still keep the GP appointment but it could save you some more weeks waiting. As @barefoot says see what resources they offer...
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    Slowly getting there - Any insight on what happens next in UK after GP referral?

    I think this is a really common response, it feels like it is a way of trying to feel in control and of protecting yourself. I am sure the call with the GP will go well, let us know how you get on. Often it isn’t about what specific box you are ticking (anxiety/depression/ptsd) it is more...
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    Slowly getting there - Any insight on what happens next in UK after GP referral?

    It is great you have reached out to your GP. What happens nexts seems to vary from place to place but your GP should be able to refer you on and advise on next steps. Most IAPT (Improving Access to Phycological Therapies) services offer self referral as well so you don’t need to go through your...
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    Stuckness in Therapy

    Thank you for this, it feels very true and also very much inline with why we are doing. Although T asks what she can do to help she also tells me I have to lead the way and that she can’t drag me through this. I believe she is navigating this carefully. I also think you are right in that I...
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    Stuckness in Therapy

    Thank you @Tinyflame. Lots of really helpful things to think on there. I think I am learning how deeply effected I feel which feels like a lot to unravel.
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    Stuckness in Therapy

    Thank you @berlinda I would like to find a way to write things down with her. It is something I have done in the past but can’t seem to get to fit with this T. @Tinyflame, yes that all really resonates and maybe why it has been hard it the past as when I did disclose in T it wasn’t really met...
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    Stuckness in Therapy

    It felt like we were starting small. She was asking how those close to me would describe me. I explained that there was no way to know for sure what people really think. She tried to reassure me that it didn’t need to be ‘right’ but I just could go there. It’s too hard to imagine that people...
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    Stuckness in Therapy

    I have been in various types of therapy for a number of years for childhood trauma and have been with my current T since the beginning of the year. I like her a lot, she has a very gentle and understanding approach. Last week was a particularly difficult session where we talked as we nearly...
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    Does anyone find hearing/seeing their own name difficult?

    It really interesting to see the replies to this and reassuring to feel it is a common feeling. Those closest to me now tend to call me by a shortened version on my name, it isn’t something my family have ever called me and I like it, it feels like adult me, one away from the place I grew up...
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    Does anyone find hearing/seeing their own name difficult?

    Thank you all for the responses. It is definitely something that feels worse when other anxiety symptoms are high. I think the main feeling is a type of embarrassment. I guess another quirk!
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    Does anyone find hearing/seeing their own name difficult?

    Does anyone find their name difficult? I find it really uncomfortable when people use my name when talking to me and I often also feel embarrassed when having to introduce myself with my name, it doesn’t really feel like me or all of me. I know it is my name, I don’t dislike it but it just...
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