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I am not sure if this board is right for that kind of question or if it is better to ask at a marriage board. My husband has some stressful memories (not sure exactly about what, he does not discuss it with me, he is a vet). He does not think about them all day long but when he is tired he...

Has he been checked for physical illness (in addition to his PTSD)?

I just made a decision... which is: spend much less time worrying + analyzing hubby... I used to be a macho, tomboy kind of girl and think inside I still am. My decision is like this: Hubby is afraid of crowds, I will accept the fact and go places without him and may be one day he won't be...

Thanks very much for your answers :) He has been criticizing my coffee before. After he had had a bad night he sometimes just seems to seek something to complain about like the coffee, just the jam he wanted not being in the fridge, the house not being up to his OCD standards (we have a...

Was my reaction okay? I felt like "both of us are pretty crazy and bad" or is it just normal life (as the wife of a Vet, or life in general) sometimes is like that? Both hubby and wife acting like jerks.

Well, I have been in high spirits for a view days. Just happy because my husband is being the lovely guy that he is, a great daddy and does so many things to show me he loves me (his love language being acts of service). I vowed that I would not complain about his fear of crowds / him not taking...

Welcome to the forum. I hope you find the advice + support you need.

Yes, it does... because if something stresses my husband he starts being OCD. Let me give an example: There is a bang, my husband jumps up and starts cleaning something, he hates going to sleep so before he goes to sleep he needs to clean and order things. Some of his OCD is also safety...

By the way, I just found a scientific paper called "High prevalence of obsessive compulsive disorder among posttraumatic stress disorder patients" by Nitsa Nacash, Leah Fostick and Joseph Zohar, it says that 41% of those diagnosed with combat or terror related PTSD also suffer from OCD. Now I...

I have been searching for ressource on combat OCD but my search has been fruitless so far. When I google it I just find tips on combating civy OCD. I asked the equivalent of the central VA hospital in our country and they did not have any information :( :( :( They had information on PTSD, which...

I don't know, English is not my native language and my vocabulary is limited. May be "spouses/friends/family". In my native language there is a word that means "kin" or "kinsmen / kinswomen" and means every family member as well as friends.I am not sure if an "equivalent" exists and the word...

Of course I do support my husband but he also supports me. That must be one of the reasons why that word is so popular.

I really think he does not mean it that way. I know he does respect me. It's okay.

A questions for both the "supporters" and the Vets and of course the non-Vets. Do you, too, sometimes feel that the word "supporter" or carer is "odd"? I like the word wife better. Do you understand what I want to say? I cannot really put my feelings into words.

You got me wrong. I did not want to say IBS is only in your head. I understand that it is real and in case of my husband also causes him a lot of pain (and I am currently googeling on more info). I am sorry that he has to go through this and that I cannot do more to help. just answered the...