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    Sexual Assault Should We Always Simply Say 'yes'?

    My "no big deal" comment was in reference to the other thread I'd mentioned in my comment, not the one that sparked this thread and that I linked to. I think "no" is pretty cut and dry. I think when someone says no, repeatedly even, during a "sexual encounter" (unless it was previously agreed...
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    Sexual Assault Should We Always Simply Say 'yes'?

    @Hashi, I was specifically referencing the thread that prompted this one, wherein a woman asked if she was sexually abused after having said no multiple times, but I can think of one other post that featured a woman (girl, actually) saying no to something sexual, not having her no respected, and...
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    The Small Things In Life. What Makes You Happy?

    Garage saling
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    Sexual Assault Should We Always Simply Say 'yes'?

    When I first read the title of this thread, I totally thought it was asking "Should we always simply say yes because apparently no doesn't count." How many times does a person have to say no before it counts? In what way does a person have to say no before it counts? If they say no when they're...
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    My Marriage Is Stressful And I Am Starting To Wonder If My Husband Even Cares

    When he says "in terms of his work," is he referring to the terms of his contract or is it merely his choice to be available that often? To me, there would be a world of difference between the two. Have you talked to him about being available to you? If so, what was his response? So he does...
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    Took The Plunge Today

    @mytai, what @Echo wrote holds true of Canada too. It's an awful, awful thing: We report the crime, as we're told we should, to people who are supposed to protect and serve us, and then they seemingly find any excuse/justification in the whole world not to do their jobs. This is not on you, not...
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    The Feelings Are Back Stronger Than Before

    @mytai, I am so very sorry that the police failed you again. You deserve so very much better than what you've received, and I am so very sorry. And I wish that I could offer you something more than just my words.
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    My Marriage Is Stressful And I Am Starting To Wonder If My Husband Even Cares

    I wonder if you and your husband can set some boundaries around cell phone communication? Both in terms of him constantly checking his phone when you're together (designating some time for just the two of you, with no intruders - meaning the cell too) and also around being available if and when...
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    Therapist Has Changed

    @bitterfight_, imagine that you were ending a relationship with anyone other than your T and look at how she's behaving. It sounds a lot like the taunts of "You'll never find anyone better than me" and "You need me" that some abusive partners spout at their leaving spouses when they feel like...
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    Suicide Is Not An Option But An Unwelcome Invitation To Hell For The Survivors

    Many people do seek help/treatment, sometimes over and over again, for their suicidal ideation. Sometimes it doesn't always work. Sometimes people do all of the things they're "supposed" to and it's still not enough.
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    I'm Afraid It Won't Ever Be Over

    I have felt similarly before, but I do think it's important to remember that what you heard in his voice might not have been annoyance and even if it was annoyance, that annoyance isn't necessarily directed at you or a result of anything you did. He could just have been having a bad day and he...
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    Suicide Is Not An Option But An Unwelcome Invitation To Hell For The Survivors

    Honestly, who lives a life that is free from selfishness? People can inflict trauma via their deaths, accidentally or intentionally, and they can inflict trauma via their lives, accidentally or intentionally. I'm not sure what people are hoping to achieve here. Asking people not to kill...
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    Undiagnosed I Have Ptsd Symptoms After I Was Arrested During A Peaceful Protest Several Months Ago.

    If it happened in October and the symptoms have started fading on their own, then it's probably, hopefully, not PTSD. Which is not an attempt to minimize what you went through at all. Frankly, it would be a seriously good thing. And you may always be a little nervous about police officers...
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    Do I Trust This Feeling Or Not?

    @mytai, I am so sorry that you're going through this. I can definitely understand not wanting to report to the police after all that's happened. I wonder if a domestic violence or sexual assault treatment centre could offer you some strategies on how to protect yourself when the police...
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    Undiagnosed I Have Ptsd Symptoms After I Was Arrested During A Peaceful Protest Several Months Ago.

    I volunteer weekly, and I've never had to have a doctor sign anything to say that I'm a healthy person able to work. I'm wondering if that might be specifically related to the kind of activity, especially if it was an overnight camp. I do think there might be other organizations you can...
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