Recent content by IrisL

Personally my opinion real relationships base trust ( even if it's super difficult for me personally; I'm pushing the hell out of myself). If I'm doubting something I'm telling. You would be able to find solution easier, if the other really care. And he knows I'm doubting him... and he knows...

Hmmm... I find that a difficult to answer, because it's depends on how prolong your relationship... etc. But me personally if I take someone seriously I will tell them... especially because with certain things I can be triggered at coitous. I would suggest what I'm usually trying to do; if he...

Thank for all the answers... no clue why but now my eyes are in tears... I don't know how to be kind with myself... sometimes I'm thinking about a shock therapy, but don't know that would be good... support not exactly have any... I will have support when ever my DBT therapy will starts they not...

Thanks for the answer... Fortunately that relationship ended - he broke it... I was drained, burnt out and had a nerve break - couldn't work for 2 month ... now I'm back to work, but have zero support here in London... hmmm but I'm still trying to do... have to admit he made me suicide, never...

Positive in the suffer Emotional brilliance writing ^.^ Maybe you should try to write out all the things. I know it's negative the content,but in your lines there is so many beauty which hidden in you.- I mean literature, (poem, verse ...) And maybe can be help to not to be so tired and...

Hello, I read in the thread ... understand what's your concerns... but are we sure we aren't paranoid and overreact, just to keep ourselves in safe, because we don't want to get hurt... if we aren't ready to get hurt, then we aren't ready for a relationship... if you would like to be I. A...

I had for almost a year a proper therapist - who did set me up a few times, but she was always aware of it- she was brilliant even she knew before I was aware of it I have suicidal thoughts and she never let me go before she put me back.that was a CBT therapy quite was okay, but never felt...

So my last "therapy" more like counselling ... Is seemed for me after the "session" it wasn't anything else just to trigger the f' out of me, which resulted a week serious depression. Attacked my mum to how she could not attention - she worked hell lot on the time, she trusted in my stepdad...

My mum now I can't forgive her ... Now I feel like that... She didn't attention at all to me... I know she's suffering from shame, guilt and sames but she never should be a mother. I can't deal with my family who's prefer to not to talk with me because I'm just remind them of the things... Or...

Thank you But my sis was always like that but hoped for better. I should stop hope good in people ^.^ maybe that's the solution or go to Nepal to the highest mountain to live with monks. That's a solution too ^.^

I gone threw a lot the last year - had a nerve break and had to take time off from work - more than two month... My narcistic relationship ended - left me with deeper damage... Originally at therapy we talked about after 2 years they would reevaluate me but my doc said she thinks I can do it...

The topic isn't easy... First I'm not sure you can as for a parent as an outsider you can interfere anything which the parent choosing to teach for them kids- they will find it attacking and if you just go first on that... Is kind of sounds for them you are questioning them parenting. My...

Thanks for your posts... Now I just have to figure it out how to be kind and good with myself ^.^ Hope I didn't make anybody angry or pissed of Have a nice day ^.^

Sorry I got carried a way... Thanks to point me out and sorry to get upset...Hmmmm... Sorry I think my job quite f'ing up me a lot ... Only slept 5 hours in the last two days - I'm an assistant manager in a patisserie and my manager and aerial manager hmmmm no comment on that - with that my...

David Are you a sufferer or a supporter? Add 1 your post quite hurt me... Add2 additional information - at beginning of our relationship he asked me to cut down all of my friends ... Which I did .. So except that forum and my job(which is abusive and stressful) I don't have any other...