Recent content by JM318

Thank you OrangeJulius that does make a lot of sense Sighs - I know exactly the feeling, I’m in the same situation. I know it seems like a cliche on this site, but the best advice I can give you is to focus on yourself. My dog died 4 years ago and I never thought about getting another dog...

Is this recent for you too? We split the end of May. We split a few times before and I never moved on then, I kind of enjoyed the time to myself and prayed a lot for us, but I always knew we’d find each other again. This time I’m stuck between holding onto hope or moving on. Everyone tells me to...

My 4 year relationship ended... usually I’m a basket case for a week or 2, lose 10 lbs then learn to enjoy my life and not worry about relationships. This time there was no tears, I didn’t pray as much as I normally would, and I didn’t try to decipher things. I think subconsciously I just knew I...

Have you ever wondered if the tables were turned if they would’ve advocated for our relationship and stayed to fight for it? I often wonder that. And I know how hard it is to have something that’s a big deal in your life and to not get the support; I feel like mine always ruins or isn’t there...

I hear you! I’ve initiated no contact as well... for me. I moved out and he has contacted me twice about my mail, and I ignored, I figured it wasn’t all that important (since I pay my bills electronically) and I sent the DMV my change of address. He passed me on his motorcycle and I later found...

Thank you, you basically hit the nail on the head

I have a similar experience and my therapist told me it’s panick attacks. It wakes me up and it’s like I can’t catch my breath. He taught me today to wear an elastic band around my wrist and to snap it- it distracts negative thoughts (kind of like being pinched)... I know panic attacks are...

Just to clarify although I absolutely know what you mean.. he told his mom about his diagnosis. My brother was there during his breakdown but I don’t speak to him about it, and our close friends knew from our last breakup (or two) and once we got back together he told me he didn’t want “our...

Yes, maybe you are right. Thank you

I need my vet to say yes to healing.

Oh gosh, as bad as this sounds, I’d rather be in your shoes rather than mine. I know you are hurting, but taking that leap into healing is HUGE. Mine is having a hard time with coming to terms with his diagnosis and is denying it, and wants nothing to do with me. Being a supporter, you have to...

My ex would do the same. I feel like he was never there when something was really important to me, and he forgot about plans we had made and when I’d get upset he would blame me in some way. Recently he told me he “didn’t WANT to spend time with me” and I think it was a way for him to push me...

That’s because it’s easier to put blame on the person you love rather than take responsibility for the real issue. How long has it been since you split up? Do you remain in contact? I am not contacting my ex anymore but I know I’ll see him around because of mutual friends, I’m just not sure how...

I’m in the same boat; this is our 4th breakup in 4 years. I just moved out on Saturday. My vet refuses help or meds, and recently tried convincing me he was never diagnosed, which is untrue. I feel for you and I know what you’re going through, but I’ve just realized I can’t help someone who...

I’ve had it happen to me quite a few times. I recently talked to my friend about it and she was so mad that I can control waking up from my own sleep (she said she can’t do that). If I’m dreaming of something that I don’t want to, I can make myself wake up and I “jolt”. Another thing that...