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Preemptive apologies in case I ramble. While helping my actually quite wonderful late MIL I bumped into a bookshelf and several books fell out. One was one of those “Mom, you’re so special because…” mothers-day mass produced ones and I flipped through a bit. My SIL had given it to her like 5...

not entirely sure. My spouse is the one who has the most of the story, and now we're in couples counseling and I'm not sure that that was a great idea. Now it feel like ammunition like back then. As in, I am not sure i will be able to really be part of couples counseling for a mostly-partner's...

--In. Freaking. Deed. (even fictional portrayals if too realistic or flippant) Swap heartburn and being surprised by migraines or muscle spasms and i'm with ya. Look, we're just not going to mention being blindsided by literally ALL of that stupid disney movie Encanto, all right? Watch that BS...

@Sideways - you're right, that's probably not realistic. Maybe "reduce the overall effect" though. I also realize, reading y'all's thoughtful answers to my question, that i should've asked something else entirely. That was me not wanting to cave in and actually make a post about having issues...

OK, the ridiculously long post i did in "you know you have ptsd when..." thread brings me here. Specifically this part: I'm 25-ish years post actively living in the circumstances that brought me here. I can go months without any incidents now. Have built a nice life with my partner...

... you are, again, on the not-so-merry-go-round of 1. why am i so irritable lately? 2. oh, it's (identify reminder or stressor here). 3. well that's stupid it was NBD and it's been forever since then anyway. why the f*ck is that ancient crap still even registering? (bonus points if the thing...

Thank you. I did end up having to talk to him, mediated and facilitated by our managers, last week. Right now it's only with him, and thinking back on other times I've reached a true impasse in a work context this stuff only happens rarely. And it's only specific extremely rare individuals who...

Update, then a question. The update is that last week the person contributing most to situations that led to my rant above & I were summoned to a meeting with both of our managers to "clear the air" because now he's being assigned primary on a very important project I have developed. Although...

This comes from work so I'm putting it here. I'm annoyed that I keep getting ridiculous praise for basically just doing my job competently (I am in regulatory compliance and risk management and, sadly, it's my Time to Shine) AND AT SAME TIME getting told left and right that I need to say hard...

@somerandomguy, How'd you phrase it when it wasn't working out? Do you have to explain about tthe ptsd and cause or domyku find you can just tell them "I need XYZ from you guys" and they honor it without too much poking? My fear is that I will get frustrated or flustered right from the start...

How do you vet a prospective doctor for, shall we say, PTSD or "issue" awareness or even friendliness? Especially when contact with the medical profession for a non-psych complaint has been repeatedly turned into a psych issue and you thus have troubles with dealing with ppl who appear not to be...

It would have been better for all involved if that one situation had gone ahead and resulted in my demise. Sibling would have been better off as an only sibling after that. The sibling one is a BFD right now because Sibling is pushing for more interaction and I really f*cking failed Sibling back...

Not sure if it's empathy exactly but I am sometimes still am (and used to always be) attuned to others' negative states. Like I "catch" their stress or anger, even after they are over it. Still trying to squelch this at work. Am an ACOA and I had some other things happen in my teens, some thanks...

TLDR - more irritability and some heightened sensitivity to feeling like my agency is being infringed on. I have had basically NO family/holiday exacerbations since family gatherings were off the table this year, which was nice. I had some almost dormant reactions come back when the pandemic...

generally speaking, to solve or prevent problems and "leave the campsite better than i found it." Looking out for certain others in my life. Acting with integrity and objectivity. Not being a hypocrite. Competition/winning, doing whatever it is as well as possible. This is the healthier side of...