Recent content by LB226

Thank you so much for this article. My partner of 7 months and soon to be husband next summer, abruptly ended our relationship after a fight. It blindsided me. I saw mild PTSD symptoms sprinkled throughout our relationship, but when a highly stressful fight happened just recently, he forced me...

@anon1234 That was also the story with my vet. He felt like I wasn't invested into the relationship. He really pushed me on that issue and I could not convince him otherwise. He was very impulsive and high strung and I was cautious and slower in making big decisions. I explained this to him...

@sadgirl I've been following your posts. I've been in your shoes. Nine weeks have passed and not a word from my ex. My ex was in denial of the severity of his PTSD. At the end of our relationship he did and said the most shameful things I've ever experienced in a relationship. I have to...

@EveHarrington I had to reply to this post. I read that the success or failure of relationships is not so much determined to how you fight with your partner, but in how you resolve the fight. Spot on!! This holds true for PTSD sufferers and non sufferers. Great post for everyone!

@LostOne83 I can relate to this quote....Oh my gosh, can I. I'd learned that my ex combat vet had a hierarchy of people who were "safe" in his world. During a flare up, I'd hear him talking to his combat "brothers" and it was as if life was wonderful. He was happy, laughing, and so loving in...

@Sweetpea76 Thanks for that explanation. I'm still so intrigued about putting the puzzle pieces in place... I think it helps me in my healing journey. Yes!! I could see both hypervigilance and anxiety in him, but it so foreign to me, at that time. I kept thinking it was things I said or...

Hi @Sweetpea76 My ex also had combat PTSD. I wrote previous posts about not knowing what PTSD symptoms were until after the relationship ended. In hindsight, I'm pretty sure I saw many symptoms of PTSD from early on. One of first things I noticed early in the relationship was his energy...

@Deanna's Gap Yes...This relationship never had a chance, really. My ex didn't trust in ANYBODY. He saw humanity as generally bad. He even admitted to this. I knew it would just a matter of time before I made a mistake, broke his trust, hurt him, etc. I mean...I am human, right? Tell me of...

@Freida Thank you for your explanation. As a supporter, it was so very confusing for me to see my ex treat his friends (military "brothers") with love and kindness, only to hand up the phone and become "the stranger" I lived with. I can see clearly...now... how his military friends came...

@Deanna's Gap the forum is Shut outs/blocking Discussion in 'Supporter Discussion' started by Willowtree, Oct 8, 2017. My profile name on that forum is ladyboss226. I recently changed it to LB226. This web site has been a blessing for me. Insight from both supporters and suffers has been...

@ Freida can you please expand on your comment about isolating the ones you love, not the ones you need? This left me a with questions.... My ex ended our relationship abruptly. One week we were talking about wedding venues, and the next week the relationship was over. I was at a complete...

@Buttercup That was a very powerful comment. I commend you for your strength and for placing boundaries in your relationship. I only experienced 7 months of ptsd symptoms with my ex. I saw more of the push (somewhat subtle at times) than the pull. Our relationship ended abruptly and with...

@1lostlove your story made my heart ache. So painful when someone abruptly walks away because they can't deal with their emotions. How are you doing today? As I've learned from this forum, being in a relationship with a PTSD sufferer requires years of therapy and a continuous effort to work...

@Freida I know, right?!! It was the worst possible mistake, yet when I asked about watching the movie, he agreed. I wish he just could have told me how he was feeling. I could already tell he was in a foul mood, but I thought he maybe had a bad day at work. Then afterward he reprimanded me...

Sept. 11th was my first experience with a PTSD anniversary "flare ups." At this time I had no idea what PTSD was and how it affected my vet. Clueless!! I did the worst possible thing EVER. Came home from work and suggested we watch a 9/11 Netflix movie. Lets just say the night did not end on...