Recent content by Livy's Mom

I'm going to look into this tomorrow. It is true that after two informal chats with the pricey attorney I felt overwhelmed and not understood AT ALL. I think that has pushed me toward just letting go of everything. I still may very well do that but I think it would serve me well to do what...

Holy hell @Alice.in.Wonderland... I'm going to have to copy that entire post and print it out. There is no doubt you are 100% on point with your comments. I received the exact pressure you spoke of already "Well he IS her father" and I fell for it. It came from my mother also codependent...

@Alice.in.Wonderland, I copied your last paragraph and saved it to my phone. Very to the point and I need to remind myself of those facts on a regular basis. Thank you.

Thank you for your replies. I don't know how much he drinks now but I can only assume it has gotten worse after his exit. He hasn't gone a day in at least 5 years without at least a 6 pack and a pint of hard liquor. That is the minimum. The eviction "letter" was just that. A letter from a...

I'll take it @Fadeaway!

Hello everyone. I was wondering if any suffered had personal experience with abandoning their children? I am sure it is a difficult topic to discuss but I really need to hear from you. My ex left me and our 3.5 year old daughter 6 months ago. When he first left it was out of nowhere and it...

@Amack i am so happy to hear this news. I'm sending all of the positive energy I can your way.

Welcome Amack. As you read my situation is quite similar and this forum has been incredibly helpful. I have made friends with other supporters and although thousands of miles away, they GET IT, and when I need to be heard , they hear me. Stick around and ask tons of questions. The knowledge...

Hello @Amack. The post is old but I'm still here! I'm sorry you have to relate to my story. It's a terrible place to be. With 4 kids no less. I can barely keep it straight with 1. So, it did and didn't happen. We went as far as meeting with the interventionist where I did provide information...

My recent favorite in context of not seeing his daughter? "There is just no telling what YOU will do?! YOU have extreme highs and lows.. YOUR bipolar!" Really? I have extreme highs and lows?? By extreme highs and lows are you referring to my calm demeanor and the lack of insults being...

Hello Everyone, I've been away for a bit just trying to keep my head on straight with my new normal. I wanted to give an update on what's been going on in our lives and get some wisdom, opinions, etc.. First, I'll start with the changes I have made personally for the better. I started taking...

Good news, no drunken holiday I love you, let me fix you texts were sent and my daughter and I made it through the holiday just fine. She enjoyed every minute of it. Couldn't have asked for more than that really. I will admit that I did refuse a gift that was left for my daughter by the...

Filing was the right thing to do.. No doubt about that but him receiving the notification on the holiday. Ugh... Terrible terrible timing. I agree there is nothing I can do. I suppose my question should have been what coping strategies have you found to be successful in letting go of that...

As hard as it was to file the child support paperwork, I got it done and tried to put it out of my mind. I knew the holiday was going to be difficult with his absence so I was prepping and felt as ready as I could be. Yesterday I get a text from his mother telling me that his aunt (he is...

This is likely the most important information/advice you will ever receive on this forum and from my own personal experience sometimes takes the longest to believe and practice. I believe if two people are committed to their own individual growth and development and can support each other...