Recent content by Lola

Yes I can identify with your statement. After dating for 3 years, my bf and I actually did try living together for about a year. I found it difficult to be living fulltime with the effects of his PTSD. I think I needed the space more than he did! We bought a place in the country where he...

Uncommon experience? I don't know. But this describes my situation exactly. The only question that remains is: Will our detachement help repair the relationships or end them?

Separating the PTSD from the person I think this also leads to separating the PTSD from the person. Is the person doing this because of the PTSD or because of the person he/she is? My BF had undiagnosed PTSD for as long as 10 years before we met (he was diagnosed shortly after we started...

There's a difference between abandonment and space. Abandonment means that you no longer care for her and that regardless of her actions you would not have her in your life again. Space means that she needs to understand the boundaries, believe that they are right, and accept them. If it takes...

I really feel for you! This is verbal abuse. Name calling and put downs drain your confidence and self-esteem. Unfortunately, even if he said he was sorry those words can never be "unsaid". You will always remember them. I guess that's the thing with some sufferers - it's almost like they...

This is indeed what I am struggling with. I know where to set the boundary, but not sure what to do when he crosses it, as often happens. Is forgiving him simply, de facto, giving him a right to do it again? Not forgiving him would obviously end the relationship. So there's the dilemma that...

I completely understand what you are saying. My bf said some very hurtful things to me about 2 weeks ago. It happens when he detaches himself from me. Detachment is a part of PTSD and I understand that he can't always control it. The problem is not so much that he says he's sorry, but Did he...

I don't know if I technically have ptsd, but I suffer from an increase in anxiety and nervousness that I never had before in any relationship. My bf and I moved in together last fall, but it has not been a good solution for our relationship. We seemed to do better when we lived apart and spent...

I could have written this myself, as I see my situation as similar to yours. Do you find that he does this daily, regardless of his anxiety, or just during times of stress? I can now, after more than 3 years, deal with occassional lashing out and not take it personally. But my problem is...

For me this is the new issue. I have tried to set boundaries, but they are as porous as the US/Mexican border. I have tried to walk away and he follows me. The only respite I get is when we don't talk at all - and I realize that this isn't the best solution either. A situation happened...

I've read through many posts on this forum, but I have just recently registered. I have a boyfriend with PTSD and we have been together for 3 years. His PTSD was diagnosed shortly after we began dating. It has taken some time for me to understand some of what he goes through and I try to be...