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    Starting To Date With Did (dissociative Identity Disorder)?

    I'm hoping for a long term relationship out of this. We don't take dating lightly, and don't get into it without that intention in mind. Granted not all work out that way, but I usually have that discussion right off the bat when things start moving on from just friendship and let the other...
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    Starting To Date With Did (dissociative Identity Disorder)?

    Does anyone have any advice about starting to date with DID? I haven't really dated at all except briefly and never said anything to my partner at the time. At what point do you share the DID diagnosis with your partner? Do you warn them in the first few months? Wait until things are more...
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    DID Questions for other did folk

    Any tips on other parts/alters who don't like our therapist for silly reasons like have the same name as our abuser's wife (who watched the abuse happen on occasion and knew about it)? They don't like our therapist and want nothing to do with her or to talk to her. One of the younger ones shared...
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    DID Questions for other did folk

    @Ragdoll Circus freaky seeing you have a Gracie too (so close in age to mine) although I know there are only so many names in the world so there are bound to be repeats in other systems. Just freaky ours are only a year apart in age. Anyhow, to respond back to what you said, yes we experience...
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    DID Questions for other did folk

    I know there are many threads around here on this topic, but I wanted to start a thread specifically for those of us that have dissociative identity disorder that have questions for each other about things that happen within our systems, or road blocks we run into with getting proper...
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    @scout86 thanks so much. I will try that out. If all else fails I have a customer that I've become friend with that is a police detective, I could try asking him as a last resort to look into getting the details (if he's allowed). Thanks for giving me some more resources scout, I get...
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    @lostforgottensoul I already know that he was convicted and has a lengthy criminal record. I'm looking for more than just the overview my T gave me, I'm looking for the details of what charges were laid. So the uncertainty of charges/criminal action not being there doesn't exist because I...
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    @EveHarrington Validation. And with the DID I am missing so many chunks that having the years of his convictions and sentences will help better space out and get further in our healing path. We get hung up a lot on timelines and it is frustrating and seems quite trivial. Like why does it matter...
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    @EveHarrington I guess more to know the years of the convictions and the time he served. I know who he is, he's a family member, I know what he's done. It's more so for validation and also to piece things together for me. I know he was convicted after my abuse began, but also before family cut...
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    No, I've tried that scout. From the little information I do have, the crimes he was convicted of several times occurred before they posted this information. And also because it was all children, they often won't publish the offenders name (at least in my province) because of the victims privacy...
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    You can't request a background check on someone else without their signed consent.
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    If you volunteer or your employer requires a background check there are two levels of it. A regular one, and one from the Vulnerable Sector (required for working with kids, elderly, and disabilities), but you have to go into the police station to request one on yourself.
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    Yeah that's the benefit of the system in the US, that information is available. Heck, I would even pay for it if it gave me the information I was looking for. Unfortunately Canada believes in privacy, even of those who have committed crimes like this and I can't just search for it online.
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    Desire To Know Abusers Criminal History. Just Me?

    Ever since my therapist had a police friend of hers look into my abuser (criminal history) I've had a huge desire to know his previous charges, time he served, why he served time. Does anyone else feel this way, or just me? Also, does anyone know how I would go about getting this information in...
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    DID Is dissociative identity disorder real?

    @theshadowoftheliving yeah I kind of fell of the face of the earth for a while. It's true once you have a diagnosis you can start seeking for the right kind of help. I was lucky in the sense that I found a therapist that had the experience and knowledge of it (I didn't know that about her) even...
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