Recent content by pam4him

You've taken some great steps, now it's time to keep doing them. We get into ruts and blah habits, and this pandemic hasn't helped. So be the Energizer Bunny and just keep going. Do what you can as you can and hopefully the excitement will rub off on you. Maybe start a gratitude journal and...

I'm sorry you're struggling with this. I can kind of relate as I've lost my only brother and dad, mom makes irrational decisions that I just can't really take anymore. My best friend is my sister for all intense purposes. My husband is my all the things he's supposed to be - friend...

So sorry for what happened to you, but KUDOS for leaving and taking care of yourself. Keep those texts, maybe try to print them out and save them in case something happens to the phone (sorry, watch a little too much Judge Judy, LOL!) It sounds off for the front desk to make therapy related...

At at a minimum, reporting it sets up a history if he is reported again by someone else. It might not be a conviction for what happened to you, but it could mean a conviction based on history. Think of it more like doing the right thing. Ignore that false guilt, he chose this path, not you...

Oh, absolutely. I was robbed at gunpoint and went through a few months of ptsd symptoms. Similar to grief, yes recovery has stages. What could I have done differently? Why did he target me? Was it even a real gun? None of that mattered, he threatened and I was scared. I woke from night...

Sometimes possibly unintentional grudges can happen with PTSD, especially if the argument somehow aligns with the prior trauma. PTSD can sometimes cause misaligned thoughts. I'm sorry he's holding it against you. Is he in therapy? It might be worth encouraging him to discuss it with the...

So sorry you are going through this. Could you slip mom a small piece of paper with the number? or maybe when she's over put it in her phone as a contact rather than a text? DV is kind of like an addiction. It's hard for the one going through it to leave it. They have to want to leave...

First, breathe. It sounds like you're safe now, so it's not exactly square 1, more like square 3 maybe. Second, you've already taken the biggest step of going in. And you're daughter sounds really smart, and I don't think she was trying to throw you under any bus, but perhaps free you. Maybe...

Learning new things can be scary, and possibly brings up some old issues. So, let's set a short term goal of finishing one certification. Focus on just the one, take baby steps. Then add it to your resume and work towards the next one. The mid-term goal is getting a job by August. So one...

So sorry you are struggling with these thoughts. Life can seem so hard and unfair at times. It can be a difficult path to traverse sometimes. The best thing to do is to try to find even a glimmer of good in those times. If you don't already, consider keeping a gratitude journal. Record the...

I'm a mom sending you a virtual hug and telling you it's going to be okay. I wish it was in person, but it's the best I can do. You are loved even when you don't feel like it. Write it everywhere to remind you when you don't feel it. Maybe when you can record mom telling you she loves you...

So happy you had the revelation. That is a great breakthrough. It's okay to take some time to revel in the good for a bit. Then use energy to propel you forward as you work on recovery. Recovery often happens in spirals or waves, but if you can stick with it, the spirals become tighter and...

So sorry you are struggling. Kudos on trying to use some coping skills, even if they only offer short term relief. As for the shower, throw a towel over that mirror, bath in low light. Another trick is to try to associate the triggers with something positive, kind of retrain your brain. Make...

I'm glad you are getting help and actually there are hotlines. There are several on this Dead Link Removed I found. Scroll down the page to see the numbers. And you can always come here as well. Prayers for peace and strength.

Absolutely, this is a place for support, even for those who are supporting others. What a great friend you are being to her. Come to vent, ask input, or just, as you said, cry it out. Prayers for peace and strength for you both.