Recent content by saraheart

Larksong-how long have you been with your guy? I don't know your story. Is his ptsd from combat?

I am right there with you, Larksong. I never thought I'd be part of this "club." I had no idea when this gentleman asked for my number that this is the road I would find myself on. I'm not complaining...I went to one of those sites the other day and told myself, enough. I can't do it anymore...

Spiritgirl-I have decided I can't talk to my girlfriends about this. They don't get it. If i hear the word "player" one more time I just might scream. Or if I hear oh he doesn't text you because he's with another girl, I will scream at this too. Don't get me wrong. I have my moments and it's so...

Interesting...I have also suffered from PTSD and know how I've reacted with isolation. It has taken me almost 20 years to have a normal relationship with someone. And well, it's still not completely normal. I lived with someone for 10 years and refused to let him call me his girlfriend. I...

I'm curious how isolation works in someone with PTSD, especially a Veteran. I am dating/not dating a Veteran and I find myself scratching my head at times. the back and forth, the I want to see you but cancelling at the last minute. When we are together it's wonderful and when he opens up and...

I can only speak of my situation and perhaps this will help you. My mother has been abused by family members and when I was younger I couldn't understand why she still allowed them into her life. I have come to realize that I don't have to allow these people into my life, I do however have to be...

Its funny, when I talk to my "girl" friends they look at me like I have two heads. How can I possibly think this person is interested if he doesn't call or answer my phone calls/texts. I look at them and think, you know what, you're right. But when I walk away I say to myself, "but this was said...

I just purchased the book "Once a warrior always a warrior." I'm hoping this will give me insight on everything that's going on. So far, it looks very insightful.

I agree. I find though, I struggle if this is PTSD or if he is just being a typical guy. Is the isolation really happening because he has to run away from me or is it because he can. When I think it's anything but PTSD, nothing else makes sense. He has never said he has it but the signs are...

I have been in your shoes and I know what it feels like. You can survive this.

Well, you are too young to walk away from this situation. I understand you feel you have no one to talk to and if this is your only refuge then keep going online and seeking some sort of relief. I can say from experience, it will get better. it may take years before you can leave the situation...

first and foremost, you need to find someone to talk to. While I don't mind giving advice you need to find someone you can turn to in the real world and get some help. I only say this because I can hear and feel your pain. What you're going through isn't fair or right. You didn't say how old you...

Thank you for all the advice. I find that I keep telling myself, he's just a typical guy who is just doing the disappearing act. Let him go and move on. Then I think of everything he said and did and how nothing gave the impression he wasn't interested or even wanted me to go. It's so damn...

I started searching the effects of PTSD on a relationship a few weeks back and stumbled across this forum. I am in a situation that I’ve never experienced before. I’ve dated men coming out of the war before but I’ve never had someone act in this manner. I thought I was going crazy or that he was...

Larksong, Thank you for your post. I have been reading PTSD forums over the past few weeks trying to figure out my situation and your post sums up everything that has been going on. I have been dating someone for a few months that is a vet from the Afghanistan war. He was stationed on the front...