Recent content by scorpio2012

Your best friend has given you some excellent advice. I too got this advice, but I also kind of knew within that this was the route to go. It helps. Every week it gets better. I went through the same actions, having to "purge" - I didn't like it but it was a necessary and healthy step!

@LizardViolet.....I am truly amazed at how little by little every single scenario I experienced is being covered in this forum. Wow... I went from being completely uneducated about this while in the relationship, and now I'm beginning to really piece everything together, alas the relationship is...

Challenging process for sure, I try and keep the focus on other things, but I'm still finding it difficult to concentrate when doing silent activities like reading and writing. My mind will wander at times to memories and thoughts of him. By far it has been a tremendous opportunity for personal...

Thanks Kabeh - this is such a foreign experience for me, and I feel terrible about how this happened between us. I thought the new year would bring about new direction and in some ways it has - but this wound is different and I'm just now beginning to understand that it will take me some time...

Wow, that's pretty much my same story as well. I too wish I had run into this forum months ago, it would have done wonders for me, spared me much grief. It would have helped me understand what my bf was dealing with. I've learned a ton from every post I've read. I only wish it had been sooner...

It's time to move on. A new year, out with the old and in with the new. As I mentioned in another area on this forum, I've done everything I can, and the rest is up to him. It's sad for me for sure, and I can only imagine how this has been on him as well. But I am moving forward content...

@Joseph_PDX - Thanks, this truly was a learning experience, and a difficult one at that. If only I had known then what I know now. Unfortunately, we don't have the luxury of turning the clock back. He mentioned this too, that it's hard for him to dial it back. I told him let's not 'dial it back'...

Dallas - thanks, yes you bring up a very valid point, and I too have thought about this. He is not getting professional help, so I can only imagine that he's bewildered about events as well, but he doesn't see himself as having done anything wrong. The more time that time goes by, I can...

I'm basically upset that there was no proper closure. Other than that I understand that 2 people have to want the relationship. I'm not trying to predict that he'll come back, I'm just curious as to what others have experienced when the sufferer has said they are "tired" and don't want to be...

Not sure there will be anymore effort on my part. I say this because he knows exactly how I feel about him. I personally feel as if I may have done too much damage here now having read the entire thread. Let me clearly state that I know it was unintentional on my part. I also feel he could have...

Well, I walked away from this earlier, then after realizing what he really was suffering with, I tried to reconcile and I'm thinking he's probably done. I did the emails, letters... when I went to go see him he refused to see me. I texted him a few days before going over and he said he was...

I wish I had come to this forum months ago. I've learned so much, and it's far too late because I walked away. I felt unloved, and felt I deserve some attention and affection too. I just didn't know what the level of pain was. After weeks and weeks of research, I reached out and the response I...

I just wanted to thank people for some awesome posts on this thread. I'm recovering from an awful relationship experience that just ended a few weeks ago. I wish I had seen this before, but at least I am educating myself, and I am understanding with greater clarity what happened to me was no...