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I tend to over think things all the time and I thought it would be disrespectful but was working I was thinking too much a out it. I think I'm going to talk to him about it, I really don't think I have a chance of getting over it with him still talking to her.

You are right, I don't have to rush into any decision. Cheating has always been a deal breaker for me, except now I can see he is trying to improve himself. He owned up to it and even said what he was going through was no excuse. But I still don't know if I truly get over that and be in a...

That's one of the many things running through my head right now.

Short back story: (made a thread almost a year ago) Dated my ex for a few months. He has PTSD and survivors guilt from his time in the service. I have PTSD and my own issues. He cheated and was heavily drinking. It took me a really long time to get over everything and get my self worth, esteem...

Why is it that things always come out after a breakup? First finding out about the cheating and now I find out my ex is a high functioning alcoholic! I have never seen him with a drink in his hand. When we went out, he never ordered any kind of alcoholic drink. I remember on our first date he...

Got to love small towns! I was out with a friend last night and turns out her sister has been seeing him too! We both called him out on it and he denyed our relationship. Kept saying think what you want to think. He got caught and trying to spin things around to be the victim. I feel so dumb I...

Just found out he was cheating on me the whole time. Not sure what I feel right now.

I know the emotional turmoil you're going through right now. After being beat since I was an infant I couldn't handle cutting ties with my mother. In my head I would tell myself, it's your mother, who stops talking to their mother? She birthed you and raised you! Then going through justifying...

Thank you everyone for your kind words! I'm coming to the realization I was holding on to/ hoping this was just his PTSD and isolation/ghosting. People close to me have said the same things to me, but I didn't want to believe it because I wanted it to be PTSD. I am grateful I got the courage to...

I'm not really sure I know what a relationship is suppose to be like. When I finally decided to cut all ties with my abusive mother, that's when I found my abusive ex. My T at the time, thinks subconsciously I looked for an abusive relationship because that's all i have ever known. Maybe I'm...

It's been 6.5 years. I feel very fortunate that I got out with my daughter and my life. I haven't dated much because I'm terrified of getting into another DV situation. I thought my ex was a safe choice. Family knew him and they all spoke so highly of him. He is really shy and quite so he doesnt...

I am hoping not to make this very lengthy, but I appologize in advance if it is. A little about me: I have ptsd, but I may have cptsd. We will see what I get diagnosed with once I start therapy again. The waiting lists are killing me! I have been through child abuse, molestation, rape and...