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The narcissist / codependent dynamic is well written about....Dr Ross Rosenberg. They will not change, but we can address our codependency related to this issue.

Types have this disorder. They just are not codependent...we are. It is a highly complex multilayered issue, I have studied my whole life.

EMDR can be very hard. It takes you back and you feel everything fresh. If done properly it can close the loop. Up leveling the traumatic feelings that were repressed and avoided is key to releasing them. This "feeling" your way to health is daunting but effective. It is hard because repressing...

My mother had borderline personality disorder, then I married two narcissists, one classic, the other very covert, passive aggressive. I stopped contact with all of them at some point. Why? They were what they were. They were not going to change. Plus, it was the only way to protect myself from...

Are you doing EMDR?

I would see as a sucess. Therapy is hard. I believe in feeling your way to health. I had to learn to feel. Trauma makes us repress to survive.....we avoid it. All that negative feeling is still there, waiting to be felt, processed, and released. This daunting, but has been very effective for me...

Narcs are big bullies. Think through any threats he may make and verify if they truly carry any weight. Sometimes, they are all hot dramatic air. Remember they feed off of your emotion. If you must respond be neutral, calm....If they can't get to you, get a rise out of you, push your buttons, or...

She will have to find her own way. We can't help, change, love, anyone into a healthier plane. Acceptence, understanding, support, all go a long way, but ultimately she will have to want to face her fears, tolerate them, not act on them, and let them disapate on their own. I know what I'm facing...

Melanie Tonia Evans videos. Learn to do gray stone method. Only only believe your perspective and reality. Be prepared when you leave you will go through withdrawl. Nothing about this process is easy but it is doable. You must be kind to yourself, believe in yourself...period. gaslighting is a...

Yes, I believe getting in a healthy relationship is triggering. Now, I have complex ptsd, from an abusive, neglectful childhood. This was followed by repeating the pattern in two marriages..more abuse and neglect. I have fearful/ avoidance attachment issues as a result. My therapist told me the...

Trauma bonding....and just plain withdrawal symtoms. When we are in an abusive relationship, there is an addictive component due to the intermittent reinforcement. This pattern was usually started in our childhood.

It is very very very hard as you have to FEEL your way to health. All the the grief and all the fear and all the anger. It takes a level of courage I have found to be unmeasureable. My healing was messy, all over the place in an insane manner. It took a commitment of love I had to give to...

Depending on the age of the child they may have no concept of time, and their perceptions will reflect the life experience they have for that period. When I was able to access my infant abuse the endless feeling of grief and terror were just that...endless...bottomless. A child has no concept of...

I knew I was healing when I was able to tell the difference between a flashback and intuition, or even better the two at the same time. I know I'm healing when I can figure out I'm dealing with a narcissistic person early enough before letting them too into my life. I know I'm healing when...

As a nurse, I educate. I tell my story, andeven among other RNs, there is judgement. I simply always add to my story, unless you have experienced what I have or are a shrink, you won't get it....period. My acceptance and understanding is what matters. my ability to radically accept what I...