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Wow! How scary and horrible. I hope he will be able to leave the house sometime soon. I can only imagine what you both are going thru.

Thanks, Kathy. I will go there in just a few minutes to take a look around. Today was a little better. A wonderful lawyer friend in a different city has offered to loan me the huge retainer fee for one of the best divorce attorneys in town. So that is a relief. I am trying to prepare...

Well, he does drink a lot. I mean a lot. Before when he first came back, three months before the affair he said the only way to feel better and take the edge of was to get drunk. He said the only person he wants to hurt(physically and I think he also meant emotionally) was me. Isn't that part...

Thank you, Kathy. No. It is not because I want to keep them from him. He has impulse control issues. He says the only one he wants to hurt is me and that he wouldn't harm his children. Well, when he grabbed me by the throat and started choking me, he didn't really mean to harm me; realized...

Congratulations to you all!:clap:

Update: Ok. So I'm a bigger idiot than I ever thought I would be. He has been living with another woman since Aug. Found out this morning. I called her to ask what was going on with them because I had seen some text messages. Well, he'd been totally lieing to her too. It's just a big ole mess...

I very much understand the way you feel. He is in a very high pressured job right now. So is my dh. That adds a lot to the flames. When you called him was he working late? My thinking is that kind of talk should not be held while they are in that atmosphere. But at least he did not tell...

I really would like to tell myself the same thing, and have been doing so for a long time. Now there are new issues that have come about that are truly breaking my heart because I can do nothing about them. But thanks. I so wish noone hadto go thru this EVER!!!

Thank you, Kathy. As far as the article goes, I try to read everything that I can. But I have to do it when noone else is around because I always start crying realizing all the things he is going through that I can't really help him with. Last time I did it my children got upset because I was...

Thanks, Kathy. Yes, it was by the doctor's orders. He had grabbed me when we were in an argument. He had not been diagnosed yet. Grabbing me really messed him up for a while. He also has trouble with impulse control. I think it is like that stress button attached to Mr. Parson's cup...

My dh is a Marine. We do not live together at this time per doctor's orders. It has been two days since I spoke with him last. I worry that he's gone back into that black hole. We are suppose to see each other in a few days and I'm now a nervous wreck. So much so that I'm nauseated by not...

Neela, I am going thru the same things with my dh right now. I haven't heard from him in two days now(We do not live together at the moment-dr's decision.). When he completely shuts me out is when it hurts the most I think. I worry about him because he shuts himself off in a hole where noone can...

Hi. I'm new here too. I am dealing with much of the same issues that you are. Only my dh has been diagnosed with this horrific disorder. Also, it is fortunate that we(my children and myself) don't live with him. The only thing I can offer up as advice is to get help. If he is doing all this, he...