Recent content by Sheila_a

Try to look at it as a period of cold turkey, because this is what we're actually going through after having been literally brainwashed and having stress hormenes turned our system upside down. It's a necessary period of cleaning up, of detoxifying your psyche and body. The pain you're feeling...

Glad you made it there! To address that initial, paralyzing pain which you'll only feel in the first phase of recovery, you might want to have a look at the audio modules from Melanie Tonia Evans. They greatly helped me on the direct emotional plane and I still use them today from time to time...

Start being kind to yourself, taking care of yourself, finally, courelly. Let the good life start and go through that dark tunnel!

I'm so glad, you've someone one your side in real life now, too! He obviously knows, where your weak spots are and this seems to hit hard. I heard the same thing for years. Whether it's just a tactic or they really believe this to be true: The saying 'It takes to to tango' is NOT true when it...

Courelly, I know it's hard. Be kind to yourself, there is no need for selfblame. There is a reason they are so successful in making it hard. I think it helps to keep reminding us of all those reasons and processes in our bodies and techniques played on us. Your story triggered many memories in...

Unfortunately we are living in a society, where emotional and psychological abuse is still underestimated. We think it's all not so bad, because we haven't been 'injured'. That way of thinking gives such people the power to play their mind-games, often remain undetected and to practice the 'art...

Having read your posts I assume you know what you are dealing with. And if he has npd or is a p. - and that's how it sounds after all what you were describing - then the answer must be No: He will not allow that you to leave on good terms, he will do everything to make you believe you are...

We've all never met, but it feels good to read that we're thinking on each other. Me, too, I wondered how these last days went for you. I hope you make it one day. Because your best years are NOW. What we're losing if we don't act is the present time. The past isn't there anymore, we cannot...

Sure, it’s always nice to share the good stuff. It was a variety of tools I used after recovering from my relationship with a covert narcissist, including learning self-hypnosis (e.g. by R. Morren). This greatly helped and also had positive effects on other practices, as it taught me to get into...

I think Sweetpea's advice to start thinking on what YOU need and want in life is a very valuable one... It seems most of your thoughts are circling around him, and doing so in a way that confuses you and upsets you a lot. This is important to notice. While I agree with the answers above, I...

Hmm. I'm a little surprised with some of the answers. Yes, healing is not a linear process. There will be setbacks and I often felt like having reached a plateau and nothing changes anymore. But looking back you'll see, something has happened. Still: "(...) times of am i being brain washed? i...

...Sorry, missed you bought your ticket and got support! Great!

I'm sorry, this wasn't the support you were hoping for and could have used now. ..."I don't trust myself not to be manipulated at this point" says a lot. I felt something very similar in the past. And yes, we shouldn't force names on each and everything, but as telepathy doesn't always work we...

I've been searching quite a while to find something that doesn't cost a fortune like most 2-day HB seminars do. This is a trained guy who offers a couple of hours in the evening once a month for a very moderate fee. I imagine there might be more such things, also out of Europe. (It felt like...