Recent content by throwaway13

For a long time I thought I was the problem with my wife projecting all her fears onto me. Don’t get sucked into that nonsense. I just need a way to figure out how to explain to her what projection is to a ptsd sufferer.

One thing that took me time to learn is that when my spouse is symptomatic there’s nothing that I can do that will be right. Her brain twists everything around.

It’s been an emotional read for me. It’s bringing to light how much my spouse is suffering and knowing there’s nothing I can do about it hurts

I highly recommend reading, The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk. It really opened my eyes to how PTSD really changes the human brain and helped me become more empathetic.

I’ve been dealing with my spouse who has been ptsd symptomatic for months. There’s good days and bad days. Don’t try to force a conversation that will backfire on you. I try to remember that my spouse had been through an trauma that was so unbearable her brain’s natural defense system was...

Couldn’t have said it better. I just wish I took her more seriously when she disclosed her diagnosis to me when we got into a serious relationship

I’m still learning the terms associated with ptsd. She has been symptomatic for a few months

Yup the lawyer says she’s never seen anything like this. Didn’t file for divorce or child support. She’s been isolated at her mothers house for a few months. She petitioned for full custody. Didn’t serve me papers until the last day she could. Her petition was insane claiming all kinds of...

Nope! She dragged me into family court last week seeking full custody of the kids

My head is spinning. It got to the point where I had to tell her that the elephant in the room has a name, and it’s ptsd. I only can hope she is being honest with her therapist. I’m still seeing the marriage therapist we went to two times. She lost it in the second session when i brought up...

She says she’s going to therapy, but I don’t know how honest she’s being with the therapist. It seems like the road to going back to normal is one step forward two steps back then three steps forward. I’m seeing a therapist as well and he’s just as confused as me by her behavior

Oh it didn’t go well at all. I thought I’d be able to point out some obvious things she was doing that led me to believe she was symptomatic. Even going as far as getting books on ptsd and trying to read passages to her. Thought it would help if she knew I was trying to educate myself about the...

I can see the truth in that statement. I tried to “fix” what I thought I could and it backfired big time. Now I’m just trying to be patient and supportive and I can see this wall of isolation being taken apart brick by brick.

If a loved one were to talk to you about your triggered state do you think it would make it worse? I tried a few times and it seemed like that did not help at all it made it worse.

Posted on here this summer when wife had her ptsd triggered. Seems like after months her symptoms are quieting down. Is it normal to be in a triggered state for months?