Recent content by tin-man

Well I'm glad it meant something, and that you've gotten better at not beating yourself up. :) It's not really any particular person. I just grew up being taught that the way I am, the way I act is wrong. And this was beaten into me both physically, and mentally. So , subconsciously, I still...

Congrats on standing your ground. :) Even if you don't feel comfortable doing that with those close to you right now, you're still making progress, and working on getting to the point where eventually you'll feel more ok with confrontation.

@Link Removed Yes, that sort of people pleasing is a bit different from mine. Though I know quite a few people who suffer from it. My mother especially needs validation from others, and it's caused a lot of bitterness, and resentment. She's angry about not being appreciated, but still goes out...

Yeah, a lot of it is tied into issues with self-esteem, and self-hatred. I often feel bad when a friend or loved one wants to do something, and I am just not up for it. I'll usually push through it (up to the point where my body/mind is literally not capable of doing the activity). But that...

A recent session with my T made me realize just how much people pleasing I do. I always knew it, but it didn't really sink in until she pointed out all the ways I warp myself just to make others feel comfortable. It's become second nature to me. Almost every action I take comes with thoughts of...

Coming across bad therapists is unfortunately very common. So many people who get into the mental health profession, either do it for the wrong reasons, or become burnt out and don't realize it. It sucks that finding a good therapist can be such a struggle. I've found that it's important to be...

@MyWillow Ouch. I hope you've healed after all that. At least you now have a cool scar on your hand :p I get it though. Some days I come into work in such pain and exhaustion, it's all I can do not to pass out. Really not healthy. And then the rare day when I really, really cannot make it in...

Just wondering how many people here feel selfish for taking care of themselves. I often feel like I'm letting people down when I put my needs before theirs. Even when I'm on the brink of complete mental shutdown, I feel selfish for putting myself first. And I'm not even talking about big...

Need :sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep::sleep: :dead:

See that's where you went wrong. You shouldn't have opened it at all. Instead, you just stand there wondering who it could be, why they didn't call ahead, and if they happen to be a knife wielding maniac. And then they give up and go away. Problem solved. :D

So so so so so so tired. I have to get through another 5 hours of work. Then another 3 days. Then the weekend is going to be busy and stressful. So I won't be able to really rest for another 10 days. I think I might just drive into a wall on the way home (j/k). :bawling::dead:

:sleep::sleep::sleep::hungover::hungover::hungover::dead::dead::dead:

I am so very sorry you, and your sister have to go through this. I haven't been here very long, and I know I'm only a stranger, but if you ever need to talk or rant, let me know. :hug:

taste

Aw crap, didn't need the "s". Can't edit the above, so sorry to anyone who read it and had the show ruing :(