Recent content by Toralu312

And, yes, our relationship wasn't healthy because it was based on a broken promise. As a therapist, he promised to do no harm, he promised to not have his needs met via me, he promised to uphold the ethical and legal boundaries, and he promised to make it only about me, to help me. And he broke...

Thank you. Yes, it was both. We had so much in common. I know you'll all downplay this or say I'm making it up or putting too much on it, but we did enjoy each other's company even before The transference happened. But, yes, i do indeed miss that father figure who was kind and accepting and...

I am nowhere near over him. I miss my therapist and miss the love relationship we had, and I think about him everyday. But I have learned so much from my new therapist and so there's a part of me that is angry at him for failing me and for getting his needs met through an improper source...

You are very sweet to check in and I really appreciate your point of view. I'm also so sorry you also had to deal with crappy men. So, you will be happy to know that I am seeing a fabulous woman psychologist weekly who specializes in this (erotic transference/counter transference boundary...

:) thank you.

Yes, you hit the nail on the head. My father was emotionally cold and basically rejected me. Then I was raped at 17 by a father figure (friend's dad), so, yes, I'm trying to actualize a better relationship than my history...so I'm attracted to older men. Oy. Anyway, thank you very much for your...

Thank you, everyone! This validation that I did nothing wrong is extremely helpful. Now to get to the bottom of why I'm attracted to older men, why I seek out unhealthy and abusive relationships with men, why I keep trying so hard after I've been rejected, and how I can overcome this and date a...

I suppose I should give you all an update on what has happened. We ran into each other last week near his office. My divorce mediator is located very close to his office, not by choice. Anyway I got out of the meeting and ran into him. We went up to his office to talk. He explained some things...

This made me teary - thank you so much.

Thank you :) and thank you to everyone who has offered me their advice and support on here!! Wow!!!

You're right - I don't see it. It's not that I am not accepting it, I just don't see it. And I don't feel damaged. It's been 9 days and I don't feel abandoned or hurt, I just feel sad that our love relationship is over...like I've felt when I broke up with boyfriends in the past. We actually ran...

Yes, I would appreciate if you could stop replying on here. I will make sure not to loop you in again - not sure how that happened, sorry.

Thank you.

Whoops sorry for all the typos! thank you. Not in relationships. Relationships with MEN. I feel happy and cofortable with women and I'm able to be myself, they accept me for who I am. But with men I have always felt just so very uncomfortable. My T and I were getting to this when....

My T and I talked everyday about how we could make it work, if we should end it wait for each other, wait until I am divorced and wait until he's retired. This was. Huge topic of conversation, and maybe it was the step choice we would make if the Business soar red hadn't found out. Yes, I am...