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Girl, that only happens in fairy tales. Mental illness is very much a reality, and PTSD is not romantic in the least little bit. These relationships are work.

Group and individual therapy, medication adjustments, different treatment opportunities… it’s a place where they can concentrate on working on their PTSD. Sometimes it’s a place for them to go and be monitored to make sure they don’t hurt themselves. It just depends on where he is going and what...

Don’t panic. Sometimes the inpatient treatment is the best thing. My vet had 6 months inpatient before we started dating. He needed it. I don’t think he’d be alive now without it. He could probably do with another round honestly. He talks about going back sometimes.

Because if you hear something for a decade you’ll eventually think it’s true. Caregiver burnout is real. Being the designated asshole is no fun. It’s exhausting when you bend over backwards to accommodate but can’t get any compassion of your own.

You could be the most supportive, patient, understanding woman in the world, who looks like Bella Hadid, cooks like Gordon Ramsey, and has a PhD in psychology… you’re still not going to be “good enough.” It’s because it’s a him problem, not a you problem. That’s lashing out and projection...

We can’t help. That’s the hard part. It’s a mental health issue. It’s just like any other health issue. We couldn’t help with somebody’s diabetes. We could not keep sweets in the house, but we can’t make the diabetes go away. We can be supportive and patient, but we can’t help or fix. They...

That is the million dollar question. Personally I think you have to separate “support” from “help.” We cannot help. We can’t love them better, make their PTSD easier or help them through their treatment. They have to go through that journey alone. It’s their mental health, not “our” mental...

Med changes are rocky… a week and a half is still in the adjustment phase. I’d say at least the first month is hard, sometimes longer. It is very individual though.

Why would a man care if you have children via artificial insemination? At least you don’t come with baby-daddy drama. I’m a single mom and I’ve had *zero* men think anything of it.

I’m not quite sure what you are asking? I’m sorry if I am missing something, but what is “Pandy”? Are you asking supporters what we think of being a partner to somebody with PTSD? That’s a whole loaded question lol. Short answer: It won’t matter to the right person. If they care that you...

@BlueCurve you know how you couldn’t help how you felt when your OCD was bad? PTSD causes emotional numbing. It’s a symptom. PTSD is a broken stress response, and as the supporting partner of somebody with a mental illness, I can’t think of many things more stressful than dealing with a highly...

Exactly. Being a martyr isn’t romantic, even if the “he’s sick” guilt is real. Both of you going down isn’t doing either of you a favor. If it still feels selfish, think of it this way…Somebody has to keep it together for the sake of both of you.

My sufferer and I had to have a talk when he was in a better place. He knows I love him, and that me walking away from his anger outbursts is the healthiest reaction for the both of us. A). It de-escalates the situation. He’s a literal foot taller than me, and although he has never touched so...

I don’t know much about helping him manage, but I know about managing *myself* in a relationship with my combat vet sufferer. That’s really all you can do, as much as it sucks. The anger outbursts are the easiest, believe it or not. I do not engage. If he lashes out I remove myself from the...

I think there is a major disconnect. You need contact and reassurance. He cannot give you what you need. This isn’t about “getting him to act right.” This is how he acts. Period. The only thing you can change is your behavior. You can wait around while he ghosts you during your birthday and...

But… but…. but… there can’t possibly be any other option than miserable, right?

You had only been with her for a month before things went downhill? That’s a big red flag that she isn’t healthy enough for a relationship. If she is breaking up with you your love is not something she wants. Ummm… to be healed? Break ups suck because it only takes one party to the...

I’m sorry you had to go through this. Besides the broken heart, it is very confusing. You didn’t trigger him. He was triggered. Don’t take on any responsibility for that. It’s awesome you were able to make that peace with yourself. It takes people years to get to that point, if they ever do!

I’m sorry you’re going through this. A partner who is stubbornly resistant to treatment and/or untreated PTSD in the household is horrid, and being on suicide watch is hell on earth. You’re allowed to be frustrated and angry at him. I know the guilt is real… you’re the healthy one and he is ill...

Sometimes they’re just not healthy enough for a relationship. Love has nothing to do with it. She can love you and still not be able to be with you.

If you need more contact in a relationship then that is valid. He cannot give you what you need, and he’s not the man for you. Being with a PTSD sufferer is not for everyone. I think a lot of long term supporters are types who enjoy their own personal space as well, because isolation comes...

If she doesn’t want to see or talk to you I’d move on.

I wouldn’t assume he has PTSD until he is diagnosed. PTSD is from a very specific kind of trauma, and even if something is horrible it doesn’t make it a Crit. A trauma. Even then, not everybody who experiences Crit. A trauma develops PTSD. Which is good news, because PTSD sucks and is difficult...

Has he been evaluated and diagnosed?

If you like actions think about this… It would be easier for her mentally to just cut you loose and be alone. She is sticking around in some capacity. That is hard work for an isolator.