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Anne supporter
Hello everyone,
About a year ago my girlfriend told me that she experienced something traumatic in her youth. We were already in a relationship for five years and just moved in together because she really wanted to live with me. She never felt that the traumatic event had a "negative" impact on her untill then. She started to get flashbacks and nightmares. She became irritated about small stuff and i would find her crying on the ground sometimes. A month before she broke up with me she told me that she felt that she was putting her walls up again. She didn't want to seek help because it would be to confronting. She never told me what the traumatic event was because she couldn't talk about it. Then all of the sudden she told me she doesn't love me anymore only as a friend. I moved out and let her stay in my apartment untill she found her own place. 2 months went by where she would occasionally visit to collect some of her stuff, but she would burst out in tears everytime she saw me. later we saw eachother again and then she told me that she does in fact love me but can't be in a relationship while she hasn't dealt with the trauma she was facing. I respected that and told her i would support her and it was fine if she needed some space. She kept telling me that if she had any choice she would come back to me but she wasn't ready to deal with her trauma even though she really wanted the relationship back. So i just waited on her, her symptoms became a little less severe until a few weeks ago. She started to get flashbacks more often again, the nightmares came back, she even started to get back and stomach pain. Then she came to my place collected the last things she still had laying around at my place and told me again that she doesn't love me anymore. She cried for an hour and left. I can't make any sense of it. We never had any issues in our relationship before, she was so excited to move in with me. Then she breaks up with me because she doesn't love me, changes her mind and tells me she does love me only to take it all back a few weeks later. Does anyone here have experience with these situations?
About a year ago my girlfriend told me that she experienced something traumatic in her youth. We were already in a relationship for five years and just moved in together because she really wanted to live with me. She never felt that the traumatic event had a "negative" impact on her untill then. She started to get flashbacks and nightmares. She became irritated about small stuff and i would find her crying on the ground sometimes. A month before she broke up with me she told me that she felt that she was putting her walls up again. She didn't want to seek help because it would be to confronting. She never told me what the traumatic event was because she couldn't talk about it. Then all of the sudden she told me she doesn't love me anymore only as a friend. I moved out and let her stay in my apartment untill she found her own place. 2 months went by where she would occasionally visit to collect some of her stuff, but she would burst out in tears everytime she saw me. later we saw eachother again and then she told me that she does in fact love me but can't be in a relationship while she hasn't dealt with the trauma she was facing. I respected that and told her i would support her and it was fine if she needed some space. She kept telling me that if she had any choice she would come back to me but she wasn't ready to deal with her trauma even though she really wanted the relationship back. So i just waited on her, her symptoms became a little less severe until a few weeks ago. She started to get flashbacks more often again, the nightmares came back, she even started to get back and stomach pain. Then she came to my place collected the last things she still had laying around at my place and told me again that she doesn't love me anymore. She cried for an hour and left. I can't make any sense of it. We never had any issues in our relationship before, she was so excited to move in with me. Then she breaks up with me because she doesn't love me, changes her mind and tells me she does love me only to take it all back a few weeks later. Does anyone here have experience with these situations?