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Thinking a lot about this post................. Bought myself a box of low carb snack bars this morning, the type my wife loves. Money is really tight so this is a big splurge. I'm going to visit the wife and grand kids (she stays with my daughter 70 miles away). So I got some gift wrap out...

My day? Searing loneliness at times. Almost paralyzing today - sort of an all time low. I don't like this emotional place, this cave - so I will go for a walk, feed the birds. Get a few chores done, do a little service work....get out of myself for a while. And maybe see if there is...

Keep on going! Where do you hope to go with the ministry? Any directions or plans?

I think you'll find a lot of expression here that is very illuminating. Reading what other people think and feel and how they cope with it has been such an incredible support and help for me with what I feel and go through. I'm very ok with who and what I am today. I understand I am a product...

Thank you as well. Your posting shows that every situation and every relationship is unique. If you have great strength and make sure you take good care of yourself, it shows great character to do what you are doing. If he is not abusive and does not present a danger, he is simply very very...

That says it for me too............... I relate so well. Repeat as needed............over and over. Leave the anger and sadness as best as you can. I found anger and sadness to be great motivators. And then I realized that that was all I had in my life anymore. They brought me closer to...

Thank you so much for posting and for the good news. Best of wishes in all that transpires with your son. Nice to know that there are healing paths that work. Very encouraging. Also, good luck with the launch of your app!!

Hi Alba, Cross threading here, pardon me..... But no, didithappen hasn't checked in as far as I know. I was linked over here after perusing another thread and spent some time reading through the postings here. I was quite touched by the carnage and the sentiments, so I posted. I just thought...

Don't know if you'll ever sign back in. Your story is so touching. I hope you have found recovery and happiness with a new partner, that healing will bring some semblance of happiness and your son will grow up strong and healthy and can move beyond any emotional damage that occurred. Hope you...

A simple and quiet path toward peace and serenity. We do not "make" other peoples' lives "worse" if you brought positives in to her life. She chose not to partake of them. She needs to learn new skills and life patterns. She chose to make her own life worse, despite your encouragement and...

Vigilance. Backup plans. Safety nets. Escape routes. Know where your support is at all times. It sounds like a lot, but it's not really. And it becomes empowering. Your life does change, but it is for the better in so many ways. You do need to find ways to keep your attitude positive and...

Well spoken. Agree wholeheartedly.

I'll get back to you...... A lot of same here. On lunch, gotta get back to work....

How'd things go today? Are you doing okay?

I relate incredibly well to your feelings of self confidence and self image struggles. I am sorry to hear you were wronged in such ways. I was not raped, I cannot relate to that particular helplessness part of your experience. I was held hostage, in a manner of speaking, for a long time...

:hug: Take a breather. Netflix and ice cream. A nap. Whatever.......... Let the world do its thing for a few hours. We'll survive for a few hours till you feel a little better. People at work are generally herd animals. They pretty much don't care and if you suffer it just means they worry...

Ouch! That does sound serious and stressful. It sounds like they have become very aggressive about getting the house "SOLD". Whew. I don't know what to say. That's a lot to put on your plate. I was essentially homeless last year..... cheap motels, my car, a campground. But I didn't have a...

You don't have to move right now, right? It does sound like you have to prepare for unexpected and unwanted house guests. It sounds very inconvenient and unpleasant. Is there an area of the house, like your sleeping room or the little one's room that you can set up for most of your more...

You may have answered your own question? "I need a break. I need rest." Would that be so bad? If you could survive the financial aspect, it might be time for a reset. “How often have I said to you that when you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the...

Likewise. Welcome. Much support and knowledge here.

You deserve to be treated well. You deserve to live your life happy, joyous, and free. I'm still working on that. Learning to live life in the absence of a SO, with all of the fearful insecurities and roadblocks that I place in my way, is a lot of work for me. I've gotten the most help from...

I just got over here and read this posting. After reading your others this week. Fighting for your sanity? Excuse me? You are just as sane as every one of us. We are all (most of us) decent, trusting human beings. And we try to extend that to our SO's. And we go pretty far out in doing...

Do you wish to see change? Can you safely and securely bring change about? Are you in danger?

He probably has a better chance of recovery if you do leave. That may sound absurd or mean, but your enabling just allows him to continue his bad habits, of which he seems fully determined to do, and well engrained in their use. It's called "detaching with love". It doesn't mean you don't care...

Thank you for articulating those concepts so well. Your last two paragraphs are so descriptive and accurate. It gives me answers to questions I didn't even know I had, which is kind of the point of what you were saying. It also gives me pause to reflect on my communications with those close to...