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My mom is this way. She barely leaves the house, and has no friends (friends are dangerous because they could judge her), yet obsesses when there's a few dishes in the sink that "someone (who????) would think I was a horrible awful slob." It's all about avoiding shame by critically...

What different symptoms from PTSD does CPTSD actually introduce, that aren't covered by other, already existing disorders? I don't dispute that complex trauma exists, nor that complex trauma creates different problems to single-event oriented trauma. But by including it in a diagnostic manual...

I personally can't wait until AI replaces doctors in Canada. Sadly, an AI doctor will be an improvement to the alternative of... literally nothing.

I've always been skeptical of the CPTSD diagnosis, because so far, the only actual differences between CPTSD and PTSD are relational and fixed/stable. Those are within the realm of a personality disorder, not PTSD. It's also why people claim to have CPTSD from non-crit A events, because they...

There's also the fact that when you're in a situation where your life is on the line, the capacity to stop and consider shit like honor, dignity, pacifism, etc is greatly reduced because it activates our most baser, primal, animal instincts and those instincts tend to be brutal. Even the most...

It just seems like a useless descriptor to me, at least when it comes to ideology. It's like saying "I'd rather not kill." Uh, yeah, most people wouldn't. Barring the most suicidal, mentally ill, neurologically deficient among us if you put any adult human being (or, in my personal experience...

Pretend to agree, and then change nothing about your approach. All of my jobs have been customer service and in every single customer service job, especially call center ones with QAs, they will always find something to nitpick and criticize because that's the "coaching" model. I have had...

Humans are an incredibly adaptive, resilient species. You're 5 months into this, getting advice from people who have been disabled for decades. It can be difficult for us to remember exactly how much we suffered and struggled and raged when it first happened. When I was a child I was tortured...

Well, according to the DSM V, the only version of PTSD that exists is just PTSD. Personally, I think that's all that is really required for diagnostic purposes, with modifiers like complex or combat used for treatment purposes. The DSM is not a treatment manual, it is a diagnostic manual, ergo...

I threw you a response, but I'm most likely not the demographic you are looking for. Good luck on your project!

Speaking as the perpetrator here, this is why I have never made a real effort to apologize to my victims or to communicate with them or reach out to them in any way. I have a line of communication available to me for one of my victims. Because I know his full name. His sister actually told my...

I think you're getting very mired down in your own feelings of self-loathing. Their statements may or may not be the 100% reality of the situation. But what is true is that you are using those words to berate yourself about how much of a miserable piece of shit you are. That's coming from the...

I separate self-centered from selfish. I am self-centered: focused on me. About me. Talking about myself, my problems, my shit. Selfish is when you exploit others, when you uplift yourself at their expense, when you take advantage of others, etc.

This is sexual abuse, yes. Please listen to the above advice, there are options. Always look for the way to move, in a situation. Analyze the situation, figure out the best way to go through it with the least amount of harm to yourself, and the best way to extract yourself from it - with your...

A lot of secular, even atheist Jews go to synagogue for this reason. It's a normal part of Jewish life! As long as you're honest about what you believe, there's nothing exploitative about exploring religious spaces for the community aspect.

In my 30s, after 36 grams of psilocybin, I spontaneously developed affective empathy (I have schizoid). I use dextromethorphan as a maintenance medicine and my day-to-day is relatively symptom-free. I used to have thousands of intrusions a day (due to OCD) and that has been mitigated a lot. My...

I have a thread here that goes into detail on torture, and another one on brainwashing. As far as I'm aware, there is no commonly accepted definition of "psychological torture," so I would say this qualifies, as it's designed to break down your identity. You can check out both of my threads here...

The big difference is between learning to express healthy anger, and learning to express aggression. Being able to verbalize that you are angry, to engage with anger, is an important skill for every human being, you're right. But, training yourself to hit in response to anger, is just...

Yup, because as anyone who works with regulation and impulse disorders (of which paraphilias fall under) knows, the more you stimulate those pathways, the more hardwired those pathways get. It's just like anger management - the idea of a "rage room," and "catharsis" is actually antithetical to...

This is nonsense. If I were you, I'd get out now. I know it's often easier said than done, and the internet loves to throw that out as advice. So feel free to ignore me, and you don't have to justify anything to me. But that type of comment is a dealbreaker for me, and I just wanted to expose...

You were actually quoting @southwest in this thread. The full quote from your post is as follows: So you didn't actually say this, hence the confusion. It was incorrectly attributed to you. <ModNote : Attribution fixed.>

Group therapy is my #1, and if you can't get into a decent group (as it will be dependent on the group, the facilitator etc) then places like this, or Discord servers, are literally the next best option. Peer support is super vital, in having people who actually completely understand exactly...

I think @Sideways said it best - avoidance is a behavioral symptom. So while everyone has a choice to communicate, the symptom of avoidance will result in the choice not to communicate pretty much 9 times out of 10. This is such a documented phenomenon that you can write a post about it here and...

Why not do a platinum blonde on top and black underneath?

Oh my G-d literally yes so much. One time a dude randomly came into my apartment, and came into my bedroom? Without warning? There is me minding my own bees wax and my door opens and it's some random ass dude. He was like checking the sprinkler system. My response had him backing up rul quick...