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Yup! In my case, my ex wanted space but was reluctant to ask, because HIS ex had had such a hard time with it. So he withdrew from me. Got cold. Mean. Finally, when I called him on it, he admitted it was about wanting space. I said it was fine. We agreed upon 4 days. At the end of the 4 days...

Yeah..it's interesting how, once we realize our exes have PTSD, and learn so much on this forum, that things they said or did seem to make more sense in hindsight.

Omg same w my ex. His ex killed herself on his birthday. He had a friend commit suicide. He seemed afraid i would too. He said he blamed himself for ppl around him doing this. I told him he isnt that powerful.

In my case he didn't break up w me. Just started acting weird. I interpreted it as fear of us getting too close and him getting hurt. I was the one who broke up cuz his ignoring my msgs triggered me. He was devastated when i did that and seemed blindsided. Me breaking up triggered him and he...

I'm so so so sorry. My ex followed the pattern I've seen other people post about. 6 months of bliss. Then suddenly, getting cold..wanting space..I think he also has some immaturity issues. He had made a comment about how we should walk away "when it's not fun anymore." Which messed with my...

Ugh..this discussion of whether you miss someone...it hurts. I reached out one last time to my ex w PTSD. It is so frustrating because all I wanted to do was meet with him on my birthday. Our emails/IMs are so full of misunderstandings..I hate trying to correct his mis-interpretations of what I...

Talk about missing the entire point of the OP's thread... Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt??? This is the OP's entire point. She's reporting exactly what her significant other told HER, and that's the crux of what's bothering her. OBVIOUSLY nobody was in the room with the therapist and...

Why YES, in fact we do, because OP said those exact words in this thread. "He says his professionally trained therapist says I’m a major negative issue in his life and she thinks we should break up."

I don't know any therapist who would specifically say, this person is THE problem in your life and you should break up with them. And yes, I do think my experience w the sociopathic narcissist is relevant. He had PTSD because of childhood abuse. Did that make him any less of a sociopathic...

Yup yup yup. Agree 100 pct. I dated a sociopathic narcissist for a year, and this is the kind of b.s. he would feed me. I knew there was no way his therapist would say that. It's completely unprofessional. Everything was always my fault, tho.

Yeah, couples counselor sounds great, so long as it's someone who's experienced with PTSD. But it sounds to me like HE might break up with HER, based on this crazy advice from his therapist. If I were her, I'd be prepared. Because even telling her "oh the therapist says YOU'RE my problem and...

No, it's not okay. And this therapist...wow. No good therapist I know would EVER tell someone to break up with their significant other. That is bad therapy. If indeed he's not lying..who knows? Honestly, if you can't even trust whether he's telling the truth about what his therapist says...I...

Check out my post..where after 2 months of no contact, I reached out to my ex in a romantic way..telling him everything I miss about him, and how important he is to me, only to get the door slammed in my face and him thinking I'm making him out to be some "villain" because I speculated he had...

So, I probably won't be on here as much...since this was my last shot with the ex, and he shut the door in my face. I guess that was to be expected. All I asked for was just to see him. I'm angry he wouldn't even let me have a face to face conversation. Anyway, I'm done. I'll pop back in...

Thinking about when our problems started though, I can't help but think it goes back to his trauma. Because initially, he was petrified of talking about problems he had with the relationship, due to his past experiences with his ex. I do think his prior relationship has made him deathly afraid...

I woke up this morning and realized he is basically a child, and you can't have an adult relationship with a child. And that has nothing to do with his PTSD. But the fact he is always talking about "there doesn't have to be a villain"..he's obsessed with thinking any criticism or analysis into...

I also thought us talking about what happened could lead to some clarity on trying again but clearly he has put me out of his mind and wants nothing more to do with me. Thank you for the birthday wishes!

What you said about talking to friends is sooo true. Talking to friends does not help. I wish I had found this forum earlier.

I'm no expert on therapists, but..if his therapist really IS telling him you're the problem, then his therapist SUCKS.

Thank you. You put into words what I think I felt inside but was unable to articulate. I really appreciate that. On the surface, this looks like a loving goodbye type of letter..but delving deeper, and knowing our history..you nailed exactly why it made me angry and upset. It's ok, though. I...

He's been in therapy this whole time. I don't feel the "loving" part was sincere at all...I feel it was just platitudes. I'm NOT past thinking why it went wrong, but he is, and like I said, it's clear his feelings are the only ones that matter. I just feel like I never really meant much to...

Wow. I sent him what I thought was a very well thought out letter about my true feelings, and he replies with this: "After everything I don't want to be with you anymore. I don't say that out of malice. I am not saying it to get a reaction. If that's what you need to be at peace with it, then...

I am so sorry. Yeah..some ppl are just incapable of intimacy. :(

That's a really hard thing to accept. But yeah I know we would be the same way. We'd be all over each other, for sure. :/

Probably not :( Maybe in a year? 2 years? lol That's how hung up I am over him. Ughhh