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Pretty narrow way of assessing whether an injury is ‘serious’.

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Welcome to the forum - hope that this is a space where you’re able to be yourself and not experience the pressure of quite so many impossible standards.

It doesn’t serve a helpful purpose. Vigilance is helpful - hypervigilance is dysfunctional. Like nightmares and flashbacks, it’s a byproduct that some people get from traumatic experiences.

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Welcome to the forum:) Freezing is the brain’s way of coping with overwhelming stress. It takes longer when you’re recovering from chronic stress (like escaping abuse), but the crux of it is much the same - getting back to a space where your system can feel calm, safe and relax again.

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Sounds textbook ptsd. There’s other potential explanations, but given he warned you this was something he goes through, it’s likely ptsd.

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Doubting yourself, and wanting to know your own history, are both things that I can relate to. Unfortunately, it is incredibly important to allow your brain to set its own pace in terms of what you remember and when, if at all. Our brains are problem solvers, and if we push them to solve the...

Welcome to the forum:) The depression you’re experiencing sounds particularly difficult, and might be really helpful to have your friend back in your life to help ease the isolation feeding that.

This is probably when it’s time to walk out and give her time to cool down. Keeping yourself safe is really important. Not just for your physical safety but because this sort of treatment will wearing you down mentally over time, so looking out for yourself is critical. Is she seeing a...

Chronically high anxiety makes life so damn difficult. Has this been a long term thing, or are there factors in your life recently that are likely to be contributing? Are there things you can add to empty out your stress cup a bit more??

Welcome to the forum - hope this place is helpful for your recovery. Congrats on your sobriety, that’s a huge achievement ☺️

Yep - running has been keeping me sane since I had my ACL done (weird boxing injury). I prefer trails where I’m not competing for space, but I do the very occasional fun run to mix it up and have a goal to work towards. Definitely a reliable way to clear my head, and most typically it will help...

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Sounds like it’s both. Daydreaming is a form of dissociation. One that most humans do pretty regularly. It can become problematic - but whether or not it’s a problem is really a question for you. (See, for example, maladaptive daydreaming) Does it cause you distress, or interfere with your...

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I haven’t thought it through completely, but I think possibly it’s better that there are folks writing about it (even if they’re doing a shit job of it) than if no one was writing about it at all. That doesn’t mean I need to read it myself. And gawd knows that if I stumble onto one more...

This is a pretty big deal - how do you feel about it? Will it be good for you that he’s back in your life?

Managing boundaries successfully is tough. Communicating in a way that’s assertive means maintaining respect for both yourself and the other person at the same time, which can be difficult when values are in direct conflict. It may be that, once you’ve made it clear you won’t participate in the...

Welcome to the forum☺️ I’ll be pretty surprised if there comes a day where I have completely stopped having random, unexpected meltdowns over the weirdest shit ever! Looking for the silver lining to that? I’m getting much better at helping myself recover from them as quickly and effectively as...

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Thing about unprocessed trauma - it all just keeps coming until we process it. Our trauma doesn’t stay buried. At some point, it will likely become necessary to work through the emotions that keep rearing their head each time you get grounded. Building routines into your day that empty out your...