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I think like others here, it's difficult to pick 1 category. I was already screwed up enough from childhood abuse to go into abusive relationships. But it wasn't until the last adult trauma that I developed PTSD symptoms.

I don't know if you're in therapy at the moment, but I think recognizing this as a cognitive distortion is a step in the right direction. Taking it apart in therapy could be a next step. Historically, there have been SA/rape cases where to the defense has centered on some invented fault of the...

Just reading through this thread, it doesn't sound like it's the PTSD symptoms that are the problem. I'm not relationship expert, but it sounds more like you have different needs regarding how often you communicate. That sounds normal for a couple and is probably something that you can talk...

This is something that worries me too, although I'm not at that ending stage yet. I think this seems like a good way forward...knowing that your therapist is always there for you when you need it, but gradually getting used to walking by yourself.

I had no idea how I thought until I read this thread, so I've been looking at what's going on internally more. I think in words when I'm rehearsing what I want to say or when I'm trying to write something down like now... I guess that's when I need words. If I'm thinking about everyday stuff...

This is what curiosity looks like. Noticing the things we don't know or that brings a question to mind and following it - not necessarily to find an answer because some things don't have answers, but just to explore it.

I speak that language, it works for me ☺️ This is what I need to be able to do. Thank you for sharing

I'm further along the acceptance journey than I was, but there have been and still are obstacles to overcome. Other people's non acceptance of the emotional child. Risk of upsetting my mother and being rejected if I didn't act like everything was okay. So denial can be a learned behaviour and...

Thank you for sharing your story with me. This is an amazing analogy because I guess that's what I'm trying to do...to wash her clean and normal. I think I need to get to a place where I can acknowledge the child part kindly but not react to her feelings.

Sometimes some really good sessions have happened when I was most anxious about going, I think that's because I get more anxious when there's something significant lurking in my mind that I need to talk about. But when I get anxious, I remind myself that I don't have to talk about anything...

That sounds like a gentle way in. I think this is what I need to do... I have a tendency to tell her to go away because I'm ashamed of her, and I know she needs comfort. Some of my issue with my parts is my desire to be normal... But my idea of normal is someone that has never experienced...

I've done some parts work in therapy when my therapist will invite a different part into the session. Sometimes my therapist will speak with that part, other times they've tried to help me speak between those parts (not very successfully). I don't have DID so I do have some awareness of the...

It's not trivial and you're not alone in feeling stupid, I do too and I worry what my therapist thinks of me. I can't tell from your post if your therapist is handling it in the right way for you, so you could bring up how you're feeling with them if it doesn't feel right to you.

Of course. Parents came up in that post as Friday was making a point about parents. There is also choice for people not to like the umbrella term and to choose diagnostic terms, or to choose to categorize themselves as there own unique mix of individuality.

@Friday if the term helps parents to feel supported then that's great, they'll use it and find support in others that choose to use it. I wouldn't want to take away from that, but it's not a term I like because it feels too black and white. There are many traits in both my children ( now grown...

I will respectfully disagree with this. I have one child who is on the autistic spectrum and another child who has attention deficit disorder. The characteristics associated with asd and add are so different that an umbrella label doesn't bear relation to how they may respond to particular...

There are so many differences between conditions that come under that umbrella term that it wouldn't really help anyone understand someone any better. If people use the term related to their diagnosis, such as ADHD, ADD, autistic traits... to non- verbal autism etc, then that enables people who...

I don't think that a label that divides all people into 2 categories is going to be very useful because there just are more than 2 types of people. Understanding the unique characteristics that people with ADHD typically experience, or ADD or the variation along the autistic spectrum can be...

Diagnosis can be useful to communicate a set of symptoms that people with PTSD share. In my case, I experienced complex trauma and can see now how that affected me before PTSD. But I didn't have symptoms of PTSD until I was in my 30s. So effects of complex trauma and PTSD are 2 separate things...

My parents weren't the direct cause of trauma, but the emotional neglect/abuse made me more vulnerable to other abuse and contributed to the effect of the abuse I went through.. In my twenties, Id left home and had hardly any contact. Gradually, when I had kids of my own, I moved back to the...

From my understanding, uncoordinated care is poor practice and what other support you're getting should be part of the initial assessment about whether that therapy is right for you. Psychiatrists prescribe and diagnose, so it's common to have a psychiatrist and a therapist. I think sometimes...

What is actually supportive and comforting is meeting what the other needs. If they need to be in their own space, then you coming into that space isn't going to be supportive or comforting and may cause them further distress ( however well intentioned).

I guess it's a common battle between your needs being met and your traumatized partners needs being met. Compassion for yourself or the other person might grow from understanding what a person is going through when their needs aren't met. If I'm triggered or under stress to the point where I...

I take the view that all therapy is self therapy because I'm the person carrying those parts and aspects of myself that I struggle with. So going to a therapist is about me recognising and being honest with myself about what I can't do by myself. For me, CBT wasn't appropriate because of...

I'd like a small group of close friends that I could feel completely comfortable with and enjoy creative chats and activities with. I'd like enough money too so I didn't have to work.