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I don’t quite know how this happened but tomorrow I will. About the childlike stuff. The jealousy when he talks about other people or clients, how I want to be friends, how I feign that our lighter sessions are a waste of time when really, afterwards, I feel a longing for that... For that kind...

Hello. I come here for sage advice. I have admitted to my t the desire to connect more between sessions and his solution is to allow that. Adding an addition secure messaging appt as well as emails (which have always been allowed) and working up to phone calls (my idea in lieu of the messaging...

So I wrote my t an email telling him how I’m having a hard time as I’m so obsessed with what I think HE thinks about me that I don’t want to talk about much. It was fine for a few months but this has been showing up. We’ve had a few small talk sessions and while they’re nice for rapport, I want...

What has happened that you guys have been like “omg no no no!”? For me, I wore a new sweatshirt because all my others had dog hair on them and the tag was still on which he pointed out. That sucked lol. Also I was really worried that I had bothered him with an email when I needed help...

I’ve been thinking lately about how my t is very open with me and arms me with his vulnerability. I’m guessing he is doing this occasionally to show how someone trusts since I have issues with that and letting anyone in. And while I feel positively about him telling me things that my last t...

I talked to my t about my attachment a little bit yesterday. Like my fear of it and that I see myself really wanting to cling but being ashamed to that. I have this fear of therapy ending and never want it to (which he knows) and I’m also ashamed of that. Like I shouldn’t want that. Anyway, he...

It’s been months and I feel I still haven’t made up my mind about my t. I like him a lot but it’s the trust thing that can’t be rushed. Last session was our double session and was filled with anxiety and freak-out. Tonight it was so chill and small-talky and it feels like I’m getting to know...

Like negative AND positive. Do you say or write that to your t? Why or why not? I’ve started doing that with my current one and I love it.

My t wants to help get me out of my thinking brain and gave me an exercise to do that consists of 3 questions to ask myself for a week, whenever I think of it and I’m overthinking it lol! They are: What are you doing? (And I don’t even know what that means. In life? Right this moment? There...

It’s happening again with new t. Nooooooooo!!! We had such a good rapport! Now I think he thinks I’m annoying and batshit crazy and just no! Not again! I told him if that happened with him (cause I told him about transference with old t) that I would be really open and honest but I can’t...

So my t has tea (haha!) and honestly, the ones he has kinda suck so I bring in my own sometimes and an extra for him (cause I think it’s rude not to offer). Today I found a box that seems like it would really go well with his philosophy (like the words on the box match his message sort of)...

I just emailed my t requesting one as I have a long list of things I want to talk about and we barely make it through a fraction of them because I like to spend the first 15 min shooting the $hit (or else I’m not comfortable enough sharing). I’m feeling really nervous waiting for a reply like he...

Super crazy, I know. But my new (been seeing him since mid-December) t and I have a very normal and healthy relationship. And it’s weirding me out. I realize this is a great problem to have but I oddly find myself missing that kind of “putting someone on a pedestal and obsessing about what they...

I just booked my first appt which will be in a month (earliest available). I’ve wanted to try it for a very long time and they are now offering it at a place that does TRE as well so I can ask about that, although that intimidated me a bit. How many sessions does it usually take of SE? It’s...

Thought it would be really cool to have a post about the good that we’re doing! For me, I’ve learned a lot from my previous therapy and how I want to show up differently to be more productive. I’m not obsessed with what my new t thinks about me and feel he cares which is awesome. I’m being very...

So my last t never spoke much about CPTSD so I really know only what I’ve read in articles and such but curious to learn more about emotional flashbacks and if anyone here has experienced them. I’ve been thinking tonight of all the things that could qualify and wondering if just the massive...

Is it about client empowerment? That WE are in charge of our therapy and what we talk about? I have this belief (that I’m working on changing) that people will only ask about things they want to know about and don’t want to hear about anything else. With my last t it was very frustrating when...

I need perspective!!! My mother was always very late. We’d get to school late and all my important things late. She’d meet me late as an adult. My first therapist was 20-45 min late every single time and it was expected, you know? I was at a low and she was more important so could be late...

Geez. I had stuff to say but didn’t want to say it. He knew that. So we kept it light, per my request. Then at the end I mentioned how I didn’t want to like him (and that I did) because nothing good ever comes from liking someone. And he said we will talk about that next time although I figure...

I posted like 2-3 days ago about how good I felt about my new therapist and now I’ve just been hoping all day that he would cancel and he hasn’t. Does anyone else play the game of “I love my therapist/ I don’t ever want to go back”? I know it’s bwcause I’m starting to like him. I used to...

I’m just curious? I’d like that. How do I get that? :)

Whoa! So today I brought up vulnerability and how I wanted to work on that, it was basically a super fun session filled with laughter and I brought up how his kindness freaks me out. Anyway, he told me a vulnerable anecdote that related and I felt so weird after! Like we went from having fun...

So I notice it’s new with this one and I didn’t do it with my last. She was a woman and he’s a man. I think that may be why? Like I’ve seen him only a handful of times but I find I want to correct the ways he does things. Like say “yeah, you’re not supposed to disclose that” or “you really...

Do you just share what’s relevant (like what YOU want to work on) or do you open up about everything that’s vulnerable, even if you know why you have specific issues and don’t need to figure it out more? I mean, does anyone actually share EVERYTHING with another person? Aren’t we all selective...

Ok, so with my last t of 2 and a half years I had lots of defensiveness and avoidance. After awhile the defensiveness got chipped away. I’m also a lot less avoidant now. The most vulnerable things I said to my last t I said by reading them aloud after first emailing them so she knew the content...