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Sorry to hear that. Hugs if you accept them.

Has he been diagnosed with PTSD? You mention that he just started therapy. Therapy often makes symptoms worse before things starts to improve. He may need some time and space to work on his issues before he can focus on you and your son.

:rolleyes: Yup. What a jerk. He totally should've figured out a way to break up with you without hurting your feelings at all. And because he didn't - and shock - is getting on with his life! - you are somehow justified in coming here and calling @Friday a jerk. When in fact, @Friday took...

I'm on anti-anxiety medication. It helps me to react less to his behaviour.

I was bitten by our dog and while I was sitting there bleeding, with my head between my knees trying not to faint my vet was slamming drawers and grumbling about how he shouldn't have to deal with this shit. Maybe the stress of seeing the person they love suffering causes their stress cup to...

“Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out? Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you? Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did? Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you? Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you? Has he ever threatened...

Its very very hard. Who is the family member to you? Can you get some respite from the situation? Do you want to move out? If so, is that a financial / logistical possibility for you?

Hi there! There is a whole section for those of us supporting people with PTSD. Join as a member - its free.

Just a minor terminology thing - CPTSD sometimes refers to Combat PTSD and sometimes refers to Complex PTSD. I assume you mean Combat PTSD in this context. Sadly, if he will not help himself short of having him admitted as an involuntary patient - which doctors will normally only do if he is...

There is something you can do about it - work on moving on yourself. This may sound harsh but I really think you dodged a bullet with this man. I'm sad that you miscarried, but at least you are not tied to him forever. My daughter's father was a serial cheat and I finally got rid of him after...

He often complains about being responsible for everything - by which he means responsible for supervising everything! He said just the other night that I don't seem to realise that thinking of things and making sure that they have been done (note the passive voice - translates to: "that, you...

My veteran absolutely HATES to see me relax. As I sit down for a cuppa he will say something like 'Did the washing machine finish yet?' or 'Have the dogs been fed?' or my least favourite 'What are you doing now?' Is this hypervigilance? Army culture? PTSD? ADHD? TBI? Arrgghhh...

"We" have a calendar where I write all his appointments - doctors, physios, trips away together and also when I will be away. I say "we" because if I have an appt that he doesn't need to know about - then it does NOT go on there. He writes his own "To Do" lists most nights, but unless there...

Sigh! I saw a huge amount of empathy and absolutely no 'kicking while down' on this thread. Everyone who posts on a thread is taking their time to offer their perspective. @WTF Happened - I would look carefully at your emotional response to this thread. You talked about other people...

Actually, @tlc makes a good point. Because my father is a combat vet with untreated PTSD I have much more awareness of it than your average bear. So maybe what was obvious to me would not be obvious to someone who had never had any exposure to it.

I met my guy online and after a couple of long telephone calls I knew he was a veteran who had deployed a number of times and was now retired in his 40s. Pretty easy to work out he was medically discharged and not obviously physically disabled so you didn't have to be Einstein to figure out he...

Because I have never felt unconditionally loved. My father is also a combat veteran, who suffered from untreated PTSD, self medicated with alcohol and suffered episodes of rage and was hypercritical. My mother was obsessed with my older brother who suffered head injuries during a traumatic...

@B.J. - it is ok to say - whoa - I can't take this on. :hug:

I think I am incapable of having a functional relationship. The honest truth is that I don't think I deserve love. I am not my authentic self in relationships because I do not believe that anyone would love my authentic self. Then, when it becomes too hard to maintain the facade of a person I...

Just wanted to throw out a slightly different perspective on this. If I had been living with someone for 2 years, who had served 18 months in prison before we met, but was being evasive and telling different stories about the reason for that reasonably lengthy prison sentence I would push for...

You are three months in. 90 days. You don't yet know how her PTSD affects her.

The big red flag I see here is your need for attachment and the push - pull nature of PTSD. You are only 3 months in - still in the honeymoon stage. Emotional numbing and isolation are features of PTSD. How do you think you will cope if Tess withdraws from you, emotionally or physically? Are...

Someone with PTSD will go to great lengths to protect themselves and to act in a way that they feel is consistent with their personal safety. A relationship can feel like a threat. Hard to get your mind around, but there it is.

My vet actively recommends the Army to his son and his nephew, as well as to other young men. He was in for 25 years. He had a number of deployments and saw combat for extended periods of time. He has said many times "My problem is not that I deployed too many times, my problem is that I came...

Hi and welcome. I suggest starting your own thread. You may get more responses. Also read around the supporters forums - especially the video series which I think is at the top of the Supporters Relationship thread.