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So that’s not abusive in the least. Where was the talk about private parts?

Okay, so I’m going to present two scenarios to you and I want you to tell me which it is or if it was something else entirely and please explain what’s different so we can have a better idea of what you are seeing as abuse and can advise you better. 1. girls were rollerblading in the...

I wouldn’t see that as abuse at all personally but I guess I would need more context.

If you are truly dead set on this, I would first secure a therapist and then go to the police. They will want to do several interviews with you, her, other family, they’ll want any proof you have. After reporting to police you would then go to the court house and file for custody, there’s a...

Happy early birthday to you! I’ll check back closer to mine, good idea ?

A lot of people here just have a lot going on and can come across as gruff. Most don’t mean to, some are just grumpy. But, back to the docs. Were you given any sort of answers whatsoever or plans of action (medication/changes in routine)? If not medical, I would then go to a psych doc which...

I’m on the fence on whether I believe in those things. My first plan of action would be to eliminate anything medically going on. You say you talked to your doctor, what kind of doctor? A psych doc may not know to test for things like narcolepsy (not saying you have that, just an example). Have...

Are you truly concerned for the childrens safety or are they scapegoats to get the justice you want? If you are truly concerned, then by all means- report. Just be prepared to discuss your abuse, any current suspicions with her kids (proof also if you have any), and be okay with her being...

I am so confused. I would love to continue to try to help you but I feel like your responses are cryptic. What is it you want to accomplish? How does your brother fit into being a witness? A witness of what exactly? I’m not sure if your one post was referencing that your parents are supposed to...

This site has some basic information. Given 7-12 year olds generally lack legal culpability I’m not sure it will actually go anywhere. But that doesn’t mean you can’t try. Before you take action I would mull over these questions: Are you prepared for the upheaval an investigation and...

You can try, but I’m not sure if it would work. What would your goal in the lawsuit be? Jail time, loss of custody of her children, or some kind of payout? Typically crimes committed by children are not legally acted on, unless its murder and that’s incredibly rare. They would want you to prove...

Great! So you don’t have to worry about parental control making you attend gatherings. Do you believe your sister is a danger to your nieces and/or nephews? And I’m sorry about your father, I lost mine too when I was a teen so I can empathize with missing him deeply. I’m not sure how it’s...

Absolutely yes. I was told it was PMDD which is essentially just a hormonal and shitty time being made worse cause my brains got PTSD. And it’s freaking miserable. Hormonal birth control and Zoloft have helped take the edge off but it still exists.

If you truly feel she is a danger to her children, you have every right to make a report. I don’t know what the outcome would be but it’s likely what will happen is an investigation will open. She’ll be interviewed and hopefully reveals the original prick and then law enforcement will go after...

I can totally understand that.

I never said they weren’t. I am not going to push you to forgive your sister. Forgiveness is a really tricky and not always necessary concept. All I mean is to consider the brain of a 7 year old who was being abused. There’s no doubt what happened was wrong, she hurt you. No denying that. I am...

You are free to tell a therapist. You are free to tell whoever you want and need. Just because she asked you not to doesn’t mean you have to stay quiet. But I’m really curious what your answers are to the other questions.

And how are you feeling about that? And have you considered any of the other questions people have asked?

Have you reached out to a therapist yet? To answer your question more directly: family gatherings with someone who hurt you is hard as hell, there’s no doubt about that. But you’re allowed to not go. You’re allowed to do your own thing. You’re allowed to say why, though I would really think...

I’m curious and maybe it wouldn’t be recommended by others. But could you have a (or a few) joint sessions with a therapist and your sister?

So much this. There’s another thing: a friend of mine is very healthy, she’s a truck driver and travels across the country weekly. It’s not a huge deal to her to get sick, being that she’s healthy. But she takes care of her 90 year old father and it would devastate her if despite her efforts she...

Something along the lines of PE or EMDR or something similar. I need to be able to process and work through trauma. I have the tools to manage day to day stuff but all the background noise is still there and too loud. If that makes sense. I’m honestly not sure what to ask for here. This is a...

Any tips for this first session with a new T? Cause the anxiety setting in and I don’t know if I can do this. I know it’s only really information gathering but I don’t know how to advocate for myself in this without feeling like I’m being dramatic or that I need more than I really do or that I’m...

This is a hard one. Because so many people are being tied to Epstein, people I’ve admired for years and I’m struggling with it. That being said: 1. Kirsten Lewis: an amazing photographer who has pioneered the family documentary genre. I don’t agree with her ideas in politics and such, but she...

Thank you for this Friday, it’s what I needed to hear and remember. For forgetting about me. For not responding to my request for a new appt. Not just once but twice. There’s an entire list of massive abandonment issues that are at play and I know I’m assigning the brunt of it to her right...