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I feel that if I said to him thats it I have had enough he would do himself in! I dont think I could bear the thought of being responsible for him hurting himself? At the end of the day this would be the reason? Only last night he said to me he waits for me to come home every night from work...

Yeh thanks Kathy I can see what you mean. For years I have put up with him not getting out of bed and I would make excuses to friends ( which he doesnt have any more) that he wasnt well and needed his sleep? Its only in the last couple of years that I dont keep it to myself anymore where is he...

Thanks Anthony I understand now! The 'act of separation' sounds good:wink: I was looking at some old posts of mine back when I joined the forum early 2006 seems like nothing much has changed?

Sorry Anthony you lost me? Impact upon themselves?

Hi Nicolette thanks for that. The difference is that Anthony wanted to get better and he has learnt to live with his PTSD as hard as it may be for him at times. Hubby just does not seem to have that willpower to want to better himself?

Thats good to hear Kathy! Baby steps Evie!!

He was discharged from the Army 10 years ago and was diagnosed around the same time. So it has been a while it just seemed weird when the counsellor said she thought he was at the early stages of PTSD last year? Maybe those first few years of denial are taking their toll as I believe these last...

Hubby was not good yesterday I knew this was going to happen after all the holidays and family time? I was thinking about this yesterday? I know there are sufferers that know they have PTSD and hubby KNOWS he has it but maybe he does not ACCEPT it? I feel some sufferers accept it as they get...

Hey Jim dont kick yourself all fathers fight with their children! I am sure Evie is not holding a grudge! She is doing it tough at the moment? Her not talking must be worrying if it is a new thing? Thoughts are with you!

Yeh Jim it is ironic that they are going around the same time but he is not going to tell me to much about locations etc for obvious reasons. All the best to your son while he is over there! And I hope the time goes quickly for Kathy and yourself!:hello:

We can cry on each others shoulder that week Kathy I think my boy flys out about the 5th Feb?

Well our son went home yesterday it was an emotional farewll I was a mess all afternoon. But I am back at work today and I spoke to him last night and he said he really enjoyed his time with us and that I am a sook:wink: I am not expecting much out of hubby this week he had his butt planted to...

Happy Birthday Bella!

Thats right Kathy he has to want to help himself as well! Our son goes home tomorrow then flies out to Afghan in 4 weeks it has been great having him here I miss the company that he provides when he is home even if its just helping me to go to the dump or little things around the house that his...

Hi Kathy yes quite often its mid afternoon before he surfaces. My New Year Resolution is more ME time I dont wait for him anymore! I had a talk with him last night and asked him if he can remember the breathing and relaxation exercises he was taught on the PTSD course and he said he cant...

Well our son and his girl have been here for a few days and it lovley having them here! Hubby still is not getting out of bed until late which is a shame but I went in before and asked if he was going to try and get up earlier today and got my head bitten of so FH! Its his loss I enjoy having...

Hi Kathy sorry to hear that you are doing it hard but at least you recognize in yourself that your grief is overwheming you! Gee if this happened to me I dont know how I would cope you are doing well! Look after yourself in this New Year!

Hi Jaz sorry to hear that you are going through all this! The Carers section is quiet at the moment I am sure it is not that all our sufferers are behaving themselves! Quite a few carers are away for holidays maybe if you post in the general chat area you may get some sound advice as there are...

Happy belated birthday Anthony I hope you enjoy your hols and time away! happy new Year as well!

Good luck with the ebay thing Tammy! Hubby went way out of control last year and bought so much CRAP that we didnt need. He was obsessed with it then he hit the wall with a few other problems and now he hardly goes near it!

Thanks Bella I will see how it goes our son arrives soon so I am of to work for a little while then to the airport!

All I can suggest Bella is to call him and see what he has to say but get your timing right there is no use talking to him if he is drinking?

I am glad you had a nice time Bec without to much stress! Jen

Hi Bella I really dont know what to say as I have not been in your situation! All I can say hang in there and hopefully he will come to his senses it seems that you need to get with him and have a talk and ask where is your relationship going? Is it worth your while waiting for someone who is...

Thanks Bella those are very good points and yes he probably is overwhelmed with the Xmas thing and with our son coming home. BUT he does not tell me about his feelings I have tried before to help this way but am greeted with a brick wall? I know he wants to take him to show him his ute that he...