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The first time I told my partner "I really like you a lot" he said "Just like?" and was slightly hurt since he had just told me he loved me. I then told my partner that 'I love you' doesn't mean much to me. We should love everyone (love one another is the golden rule right?), I love my family...

would it be helpful for supporters/ sufferers of 'non-combat' PTSD? I'm thinking about getting this for me and my partner to read but the reviews say it's pretty focused on combat PTSD.

I know how you feel, this is an easy connection to make, especially since your ex made the connection in your mind to excuse his behavior. You already know it's irrational, you know the connection is all in you head and not reality. Just keep reminding yourself of that, and talk to him, tell him...

@FridayJones He's done a couple of over nights and we plan to start doing some more plus weekends and work our way up over the next three months. @Julesnaz I own a 4 bedroom 2 bath house with a large back yard. I have three kids, a dog, and a cat. He'll be coming in with a dog and a giant...

Welcome! No worries about the length, I could write a book given the time and motivation. I'm glad you found this place and I hope that it is helpful. I've gotten a lot of good advice and support hear over the past few months. I'm sorry you're living situation is far from ideal, I get it! I've...

So my partner of 7 months and I decided that he will move in at the beginning of May! I'm excited, yet terrified at the same time. We've talked about it off and on for a while now, I've always been the one to say I wasn't ready yet, but I think I'm there. I told him I needed about three months...

This is a hard one. I'm working on it myself, but like others have said it's a matter of practicing mindfulness and grounding. I usually start to feel heavy and tired, like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. My first response usually is to ignore this feeling and keep pushing through...

If it helps the anxiety is normal. It's a big step and big steps are always scary. Take a deep breath and try your best to distract yourself, worrying isn't going to make the two days come faster or slower, it's just going to make you miserable. Congrats on the being smoke free for a year! and...

No this isn't fair, and even if he feels under attack he is responsible for his reactions. It sounds like he has OCD or he could just be coming up with something mundane to do so he doesn't have to think about it while his mind races. But blaming you for not doing it is not acceptable. you...

This! I get this! I have been known to sit in the hall between my children's rooms in the dark with the dog at night. It's peaceful, it calms me because it is easier then doing multiple perimeter checks. Everyone I love is right there. I can hear the kids sleeping and my dog is by my side...

You're right! This is exactly what I'm doing!! I sit in my bubble and just hope he'll text and then get all worried and upset when he doesn't, when all I have to do is reach out of my bubble and send a text and he is more then willing to be right there for me. He is respectful and loving who...

@Glara I'm so sorry, and the last thing I want to do is break my guys heart. It helps me read the things you have written because I'm sure it would be the exact same thing coming from my partner. I have sent him "have you forgotten me?" texts before and he always responds with 'nope'. I'm sorry...

Thanks Falling_wave, I'll try that.

@T33 I'm sure that's what it is... he wants to be the best supporter he can be and most often the advice is "don't push" and "let them come to you when you are ready"

T33... I'm the one who has PTSD. To be specific I have Complex PTSD due to childhood abuse and neglect and being married 7yrs to a psychopath who abused me in every way imaginable. I don't know how to have a healthy relationship but I am trying and I owe so much to my partner who has patents in...

I have talked to him about how he feels, he thinks I'm amazing and special. He loves everything about me. He's the perfect carer and I love being loved by him. He isn't the issue, but we have been together for almost 7 months now and I really have to fight hard not to preemptively abandon him...

The problem is I already feel like I'm forcing him to stay, like I'm being to clingy and needy and co-dependent. I feel like I should just let him go because he would be better off without me... I can't then turn around and say "I wish you would text me more" because then every time he texts me...

I know it goes against a lot of what supporters know to do: "when they are withdrawing, let them, give them space and don't contact them." That being said I think this is one of the several differences between PTSD and C-PTSD. I have anxiety about my partner just 'disappearing' or feel like he's...

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, true or not doesn't matter the feeling of hopelessness sucks. ((hugs))

My children have health problems because they spent there formative years in the home of my psychopath ex (and I don't say that lightly, he was officially diagnosed after I left him). My children were 6,3, and 1 1/2 when i left. My eldest not only got black eyes and sever beatings from his...

@Nam I love your post! I'm going to use some of those suggestions too! I really wish I could write out a to do list, but if I do I get so overwhelmed by all the stuff that is on it I start to panic. I do however sometimes make a 'done' list at the end of my day as part of my meditation and...

I used to get up at 4:30, but managed to arrange the kids wake up to 6:30 so now I get up at 5:30, I'm hoping to push them back to 7 in the summer so I can sleep till 6. If you can't give yourself an hour at least give yourself enough time to take a hot shower and meditate for a few minuets. As...

I have several things that I do to help me balance my three kids, going to college full time, work, and a social life. First grounding, grounding, grounding! Grounding has saved me more time then I can count. You have to practice at it but it works wonders. Second is meditation, I wake up an...

My safe place is in a tight hug of someone who I know loves me, or when I hug tight my 'special pillow' because no one is around to hug (or who is around, namely my children, aren't in the mood to have they eyeballs squeezed out LOL) the tight fit causes sensory deprivation and makes me feel...

600 mcg of Melatonin works for me and I have to turn off all electronics and read a book for about 30min to an hour after taking it. If I just take it and then watch tv or try and lay in the dark, it doesn't work.