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Now I think about it, that's also probably why I've always felt CBT wouldn't work for me. Because it's all about changing how you think to affect change in mood and behaviour (and vice versa), if there is a block which prevents any logical, healthy, cognitions affecting mood then I can't see how...

That's quite a healthy place to be Joey, I'd like to get there one day too. I think that IC work aims to do just that, bring all the aspects of personality into harmony and acceptance with each other. Unfortunately abuse forces a disconnect sometimes that leaves parts of the personality stuck in...

The first time my T smiled at me and I felt comfortable enough challenging her to her face. I'd written her a letter, she handed it back and said "I can't read it without my glasses, you read it to me" I told her she was being cheeky (she'd read one of my letters without glasses before) and she...

I have both Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD. I'm curious as to why you're asking this question? Do you think your partner has it? Remember that in order to be considered to have BPD you have to have 5 of the 8 diagnostic criteria. It is not about her behaviour (I say "her" because of...

Those were/are my major concerns too Sand. I hate my inner child, I'm very abusive towards the child-like, innocent, playful side of myself. I can't give her appropriate info when half the time my adult side doesn't even know what's going on! I think I am at risk of playing along with it and...

My concern is that my dissociation comes in the form of a disconnect from my emotions. I was never one of those kids who was really scared/sad over what was happening to them. I kind of carried on as normal. I am still like this. I am terrified of what I have disconnected from. I am scared of my...

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Hi Guys, My T suggested today doing some Inner Child work - specifically using Penny Parks' method. I am very wary. Other therapists have tried art therapy and the empty chair technique and the result is the same - I can do it alone but in front of someone else I suffer with major performance...

Need to add in the caveat that if they don't care - you're with the wrong therapist that has NOTHING to do with you, everything to do with them either being in the wrong job or having issues they've not worked through. A good therapist will always care. Secondly if a good therapist is repulsed...

Me and my T are going through the same process. It's called transference - the pain of what others have done is transferred onto your therapist, making you believe they are likely to respond the same way OR It's projection - you believe the way you see yourself is the way your T sees you...

Still not sure you should be so hard on yourself - maybe it's the therapy model in use? I'd talk to your therapist and see what they say (keep bringing it up if you have already). I'd also ask yourself are you working on the stuff outside therapy too? It's not enough to go in, have an hour's...

Hi Guys, I wondered if you could all help me out (especially those of you who have experienced multiple serious CSA AND adult rape. I was abused by 12 people as a child, raped (oral/vaginal/digital) by all. Some adults, some teens, one girl. My mum was emotionally abusive/neglectful and...

I think the one thing nobody has asked or mentioned is - how long have you been in therapy for? It would be unfair and unwise to label yourself as resistant if you've only been in therapy for x months. I've been in therapy for 4 months and so far all my therapist has managed is an ambivalent...

I think the first thing would be to find yourself a therapist if you haven't got one. Please don't take this to be condescending but you sound pretty young? Forgive me if I am wrong. There's a lot of help available if you go through your school or college. Even if nobody on campus can help...

Hi, I wanted to ask... If I confess to my therapist that I am feeling and planning and am at risk of suicide and she reports it... in the UK what exactly happens? I mean, will she call immediately for an ambulance and I'll go straight to hospital from her house or will she let me leave and...

Oh, and given the age of the "child" involved - that makes it less likely to be exploration since usually play of that nature ends with young childhood. Teenagers understand that sex = pleasure. They should also understand the concept of privacy and respect.

I have experience of this since I too was abused by another child (in amongst adults) and struggled with EXACTLY the same issue. It's so good to hear I'm not alone!! Thank you for your courage in sharing. What I found out is quite simply; When children "explore" there is no focus on pleasure...

To be honest, I don't know why it happens but as a teen I used to get flashes of stabbing people. I found talking about it lessened the problem dramatically. If you have been sexually victimised in some way, then these images and thoughts are VERY common. It's not uncommon for rape victims to...

LOL that made me smile! Thanks!

missy - It works best for me this way - with my BPD I'd cling to her and be constantly texting and emailing if I could. Which isn't really very fair on her. This way I know I'm treating her fairly and therefore I feel less at risk she'll get fed up and abandon me. I work best with someone with...

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I'm really not in a good place right now. My therapist brought up my mum last week and all this week I've been awful. I have BPD too so abandonment and my mum go hand in hand and I feel like clinging to my therapist. I haven't been able to get dressed for the last 3 days and have no energy to...

Thank you - you're right. I just struggle with my fear of losing her but I guess if I do then she's not the right one for me after all. Not meant to be. Thank you for sharing your story, I appreciate it. You're really brave. Can I assume from it that it's no longer an issue for you? If so...

Hi Guys, I wondered if anyone knows anything about this please. I'm in the UK by the way. I went to see my GP today. I got my meds switched. He asked me if I was self-harming. I am. He wants me to talk to my therapist and will check if I have when I see him next week. Logically I know I...

I know exactly what you mean. When my first little boy was 18 months old I endured hell because I believed I had it in me to do to him what had been done to me. I truly believed I was going to sexually abuse him. The therapist I was seeing at the time did something right and something wrong...