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I have only one thing to add to what's already been said; When I realised another name for BPD is Unstable Emotional Disorder that made me feel a whole lot better because the description is there in the title and it's one I feel BETTER fits the problem. There's nothing wrong with our...

My experience with meds is that they might not make anything better for a week or two but they won't make it worse. I've been on and off anti-depressants since 1996 when I was 12. Taken a variety of them. Unless they are drowsy inducing ones the pills themselves don't do a great deal either way...

There are ways round the adrenaline - check out hypnobirthing (not as hippy as it sounds, it's just practising the art of incredibly deep relaxation). I had my second child with hypnobirthing, water and gas and it was by far the lovliest thing. Unfortunately (and I hate to say this) there are...

Oh... is this why whenever I'm in therapy I find myself fiddling with something?! It doesn't matter what it is but I fiddle with everything from the hem of my top, to my elephant necklace, engagement ring, bracelet, little olive wood cross. I start getting stressed, feel the panic and anxiety...

Yep! And these days with smart phones, you don't even need to waste time getting the computer going if all you're doing is getting a URL! No excuses! Put the computer down and listen!

Thanks guys! I've looked at the Pete Walker website and some of what he wrote had me in tears - I can identify with nearly all of it (specifically the bit about co-dependency and compliance... I always thought I was "just a people pleaser" but it goes deeper than that, I've actually lost who I...

The witness care team should be able to help you - if not as you say then Victim's support can. My experience is that they should guide you what to write (in terms of what not to say, what to include... not telling you exactly what to write) and you will need help with knowing legally what you...

Wow, she doesn't sound very professional at all! I think you did the right thing in leaving and I'm glad it hasn't prevented you from looking for somewhere new. I hope you find it soon. I'm glad also that you obviously have a good sense of what you deserve and want from a therapist, makes it...

Hi Guys I wondered if anyone knew of any specific writing exercises for dealing with trauma? Specifically abuse and SA trauma? I've tried googling and nothing really specific comes up. I'm into art therapy and illustrative journalling (where you take a quote or a specific sentence you've...

My thoughts are (and these are just my initial thoughts - bearing in mind I'm no therapist nor expert in PTSD, just been to 12+ counsellors in my time); 1) You sound like you have lost trust in your therapist. This is hard to get back. At the very least you might be advised to talk to her and...

In the UK, it is reportable if they believe kids are presently in danger (like your abuser was a teacher). So if you say "Mr John Smith was at London Primary School in 1992 and he did xyz" they have to report it. However, if you just say "I was abused in 1992" there's not a great deal to go on...

1 - Complex PTSD 2 - Major Depressive Disorder 3 - Borderline Personality Disorder 4 - Post-natal Depression 5 - Binge Eating Disorder I wasn't sure if you wanted all diagnoses we've ever had. I was given a BPD diagnosis in 2009, but several people have since told me Complex PTSD is remarkably...

Hi Bloomy I understand where you're coming from with the self-loathing. My mum found out that I'd been raped as a 5yr old when I was 8. I didn't have the words to describe it properly so maybe I made it sound like consensual sex or something. Anyway my abuser was a man in his 40s (I think). She...

I like that idea, might steal it for myself! I often struggle with talking to my T, she can expect letters galore from me! This might help me get used to talking more than writing. Thank you. x

Oh hunny, I know how you feel. I struggle with the "r" word too. When I first mentioned something that happened when I was 24, I referred to it with my therapist as "an attack" then later she asked if I had any counselling for it in the past and I said "yeah I went to coventry ra...." and went...

I would be concerned about anyone who instantly tells you "YES" because the fact is, we don't know and to tell you yes, make you believe something to be true when it might not be would be highly dangerous and not fair on you. . I would be interested to know when these feelings towards sex...

Me too hun. I was abused by 12 different people as a child (age 2-16), then 6 or 7 more abused me in the space of 6 months when I was 24. It's so hard... I don't believe my own story half the time and it feels ... unreal. My T said that when I described this feeling like nothing about my...

I'm not alone!! Thank you!! I found it worse than the normal flashbacks too. I think I will have to talk to my T on Friday, this hasn't happened to me before and I'm finding it hard to cope with.

Hi all, I think I must be going insane, I've tried googling this and got nowhere so I thought I'd join up and ask you guys. Last night I was feeling hyper anxious, the slightest thing was setting me off, I was running around using avoidance techniques and hyper stressed with the effort of...

I wonder if you disassociated during your original trauma? My therapist said that if you did, it makes it more likely that you will repress the memories, more likely you will disassociate during a similar healthy experience in later years and more likely you will disassociate in general. So...