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No, you should not let him yell at you. He’s responsible for his actions, relationships and health. Him using you as a reason not to see his son, is 100% manipulative behaviour. There’s a reason he’s your ex husband and the joy to that is, you don’t have to put up with his bullsh*t.

Also, if you have a King size bed, you should put a red sheet or fabric between your mattress and box spring. To make it one and grounded.

Rose Quartz is for self love. Putting a Rose Quartz at the right side of your bed or in the right corner of your bedroom , from your bedroom door is for self love in Feng shui ?

No I did not date and didn’t plan to date, for the first year. We were still living in the same house. Even though he wasn’t home much. I also had my children to think about and I wanted to focus on them and myself. Up until PTSD came into our life, we had a great and strong relationship. We...

You take care of yourself, so you have the energy to support him. Being ok with having a little space, so his focus is on himself. I know it’s easier said then done at times. I learned it the hard way. I didn’t find the forum until a couple of months into his therapy. I was lost and confused...

I do understand. When I think about it now. I guess I just had to let go. As much as it hurt and it hurt like a b**ch. I don’t have control over his feelings or choices, only my own. If I didn’t save myself, he wouldn’t have had me to come back too. I realize how lucky I am . That when the...

It does get worse before it gets better. It’s very important for you to learn and do self care. This is his journey to heal. If you can get into therapy for yourself, it would benefit you a great deal. As supporters we want to help or try to fix things. When we do that, we aren’t helping or...

I’m not sure I can add more, than what’s been said. Boundaries are one of the biggest things to set. You have every right to walk away, when your not being treated the way you deserve. I walk away and do something for myself. If my SO said something hurtful, I would wait until he was calm and...

Sending you big hugs my friend. I’m sorry you had to experience hurt and disappointment. I think in the end you came out on a positive. I’m glad the surgery went well and you did have someone with you. Because you do deserve the support.

Happy New Year!!

You said, when you first started dating you set a boundary. That you would both be in therapy. What happened to that boundary?

Hi, welcome to the forum. I’m glad you found us and we are here to support you?

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I’m sure it must of felt good to get all that out in your post. You have a lot going on and I’m sure your in your head a lot. Trying to figure out what went wrong or how you ended up in this place and pain. I would like to ask you to read your post as, your reading it as my post. I see so many...

First I would like to say, welcome to the forum. I’m sorry for your pain and do hope you stay with the form, for support. You will have a long road in your healing and you will still be dealing with PTSD. You will read on the forum, many many times. PTSD does not make people cheat. It is a...

Hi, welcome to the forum. We are all here to support you.

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Hello beautiful lady. Sorry I missed this post until now. I’m happy to hear you made it to and from your Tap test and that you don’t need surgery. You my friend are a strong, kind and loving person. What everyone here has said, is true. You deserve to be supported, loved and taken care of...

We all have our different boundaries. You have yours, she has hers, I have mine. We all have a right to set them and by setting them, we are not being mean or petty. I think it’s great that your learning to set boundaries. People don’t know our boundaries until we show them. If your neighbor is...

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I agree about the child support. Most times an attorney like to go in with high , so there more wiggle room to negotiation. To be honest, I would be very surprised if he gets what he’s asking for. Because he only lives in a one bedroom. 4 kids, one bedroom would be hard to live in. Not just for...

Sorry your going through this. I understand your trying to still support him. But you have to put your kids first. They don’t need to be around drinking, so yes it needs to be dealt with. I don’t know your laws, but here he wouldn’t be able to have the kids 45% of the time. Because he only has a...

You said you hold some resentment and feel you have been lashing out the last couple of weeks. Did you tell her how you’ve been lashing out? Couples therapy isn’t about who did what. It’s about learning how to communicate. Learning to hear and try to understand the other persons Perception...

I hear what your saying. In a way I was in your shoes once. I didn’t have people saying the same things. But I was in the place of, do I let go or wait. I made the choice to let go. Not because I wanted to. Because I had to, for myself and our kids. My gut told me it wasn’t what he wanted...